5 Ways To Get Out Of Your Dating Rut & Start Having Fun Again

Dating Coach: 5 Ways To Get Out Of A Rut

Five Practices to Make Dating Easier and More Enjoyable

After my dating hiatus, I learned to date with more ease. When I started making choices that were aligned with what I wanted, and behaved and acted according to my values and integrity, I actually enjoyed dating. I share these practices that dramatically improved my dating life in hopes that they help you too.   

1. Be the victor. Victims blame by asking, "Why is this happening to me?" Victors take responsibility by asking, "Why is this happening for me?" Whether it may seem like it or not, everything is happening for your greater good, especially your difficulties in dating and love. They occur so that you can learn, grow and become an even better version of yourself. When you are an even better version of "you, 2.0", you attract men who are better suited for you. Asking, "Why is this happening for me?" opens up your mind to be more resourceful in finding ways to improve your dating life.

2. Challenge, change and transform. Challenge your beliefs, change your perception and transform your reality. Your dating life is first created in your mind and reflected outward. Challenge habitual beliefs that keep you from enjoying dating. For instance, let's say you believe, "People hide behind their online dating profiles and aren't who they say they are when I meet them." While there are people who aren't who they say they are, there are also genuine people who show up the way they portray themselves to be. When you start focusing your attention on "genuine people" instead of "people aren't who they say they are", "genuine people" will show up in your dating life.    

3. Listen to yourself. Don't ask your friends and family what you should do and don't listen to their advice. They will tell you what you should do based on who they are and their experiences in their own love life. You are an individual. You are unique. You have your own answers. Overthinking and overanalyzing will stop you from listening to yourself. Disengage from your mind, connect with your feelings and listen to your intuition. Make decisions and choices in the present moment based on what feels right. When something feels right, you will feel expanded, open and uplifted.  

4. Be a lady. Gentlemen prefer ladies. If you want to be treated with care, kindness and respect, be a lady. Being a lady means responding, instead of initiating. It means letting a man woo you. It means not having sex with a man too soon so that you can learn his true intentions. It means knowing when to give and when to receive. It means behaving and acting in ways that don't compromise your integrity.     

5. Make wise choices. Don't get derailed from love by choosing to date men with red flags because it will take more time, effort and energy to get back on track. Each individual choice adds up. Make wise choices that keep you on track to the love you desire. Knowing what you want and keeping your eyes on your vision of love will help you make wise choices. Choose in favor of what you want as long as you feel good about yourself. You always have a choice. 

You can actually create the kind of dating experience you'd like despite your age and length of time you've been dating. If you have an open mind and heart, are willing to look at dating in a positive light, and do the inner work, you will date higher quality men and enjoy greater success. Leave a comment: what is the one thing you'll do to make you dating life easier and more enjoyable? 

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