The #1 Way To Tell A Man Is Wasting Your Time

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Does it sound like he's wasting your time?

If he's got stories, RUN.

You meet a guy you like and start dating. And it seems like he likes you too. There's just one small problem: he has a lot of stories.

I'm not talking about interesting stories. I'm talking about ex-wives stories, money problems stories, or "I don't know what I'm doing with my life" stories.

They're endless, with one problem after the other. Well, here's the moral to these stories.

If a man has an ex-wife story, a money story, or any other kind of uninteresting story, he's not ready for a relationship.


He'll bend your ear, waste your time, even sleep with you if you let him, but he is not in any condition for a relationship. He's closed for repairs.

You may try to overlook these stories because you like him and you see the potential for a relationship. The problem is once a man gets on the wrong side of a story, it's going to be a long time before he can be in a relationship with you. And trying to open him up just because of "potential" is usually a bad idea that will backfire.

We all come with baggage: Some of us have checked our baggage and some of us are still carrying it. The ironic thing is that if you stick around and listen, a man who isn't ready for a relationship will eventually resent you and blame you.

There's an easy solution to this problem: Stick with men who are present and ready to move forward. If they're speaking about the present and the future, you're on the right track.


If you want a relationship, no more listening to stories from men.

James Allen Hanrahan is a highly sought after dating and relationship coach for SMART women based in Los Angeles. Get his FREE Chemistry to Commitment formula for lasting love. If you're a smart woman struggling to achieve relationship success, check out the treasure trove of information in Dating Advice for Alpha Women.

This article was originally published at jamesallenhanrahan.com. Reprinted with permission from the author.