Masculine Energy Is The #1 Way Women Turn Men Off (Without Even Trying)

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How Your Masculine Energy Scares The Men You're Dating

When you meet a man that your body likes, your body will recognize the attraction and immediately go to work. But the real question to ask is: Are you selling yourself, or are you being true to yourself when you're dating?

If you're trying to market yourself as a dateable person, dates will notice it by the fact that you talk a lot. This is because women sell from their masculine energy. This means you come off as giving a presentation or performance.

Being yourself is a completely different energy. You might call it your feminine energy because you feel good to do good, instead of doing good to feel good.

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When you meet someone, it's natural to do things that will make them like you. But like many of us who have sought dating advice have been told, if you don't like shrimp, don't say you do!

If you aren't honest and lie about small things in the beginning, when the other person finds out, it can turn into a much bigger situation. Like, what else did you lie about?

You can tell the difference by your speed. If you're in a hurry to get a man when you meet him, chances are your masculine energy has taken over.

It's the same as when you meet a man who acts like a circus performer when he meets you. He's very entertaining, but there's just no substance behind him. That's because he's selling you with his feminine energy.

The challenge is, when a man is selling you something, he's usually not in the position to buy. Selling yourself to a man will indicate to him you're not available for a relationship, and he will treat you as a hook-up.

Why? Because you sold him on the idea of you.

In order to have a relationship, it has to be his idea. He's the one who has to make the first move; if you do, it comes across as you being too masculine.

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Being yourself attracts real men to you, and they will go out of their way to win you over. It's about knowing you're the prize and acting like it.

This means you need to start moving away from seeking admiration.

Admiration is for what you do, but love is for being who you are. It's the difference between selling yourself and being yourself.

It's of utmost important to be yourself because when you aren't, it always comes back and haunt you later. So, never start a relationship through lies because it's better to be a genuine person than someone you never were to begin with.

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James Allen Hanrahan is an author, speaker, relationship coach, and communication expert. He works with individuals to navigate love and relationships with his Alpha Coaching program. Visit his website for more.