What Mommy Wars? Be A Better Friend To Other Mothers

What Mommy Wars? Be A Better Friend To Other Mothers

Time to call a truce with the other mothers.

By Barbara Greenberg, PhD for GalTime.com

We all know how vulnerable we are when it comes to our kids. Even a slightly negative comment about our child can send us reeling. Even if the comment rings  the tiniest bit true, hearing it from someone else can sting. As mothers, we have lots of power to make other mothers feel good and bad. Let's discuss some ways to spread the love among mothers.


Look at this list. Try it out and then get back to me about all of the positive energy coming your way.

1. When a mom tells you about a disappointment with her child share a disappointment of your own. Do not use the opportunity to brag about your clearly superior child.

2. You've noticed that another mother appears exhausted. Offer to help her without telling her that she looks wiped out.

3. Don't try to pretend that raising kids is a cakewalk for you. Share your stress. Everyone will breathe a sigh of relief.

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4. Share something nice about that other woman's child with her. Go ahead. It won't hurt.

5. Do not brag about your child's grades. The other mother's child may be struggling. Be humble, modest and quietly supportive.

6. There is no need to tidy up excessively when other moms are coming to your house. Share your chaos. You are in good company.

7. Maybe you have a housekeeper, a nanny and a staff of 5. Keep it to yourself.


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8. Celebrate both your own child's successes and the neighbor's child's successes. There is enough joy to go around.


9. If another mother tells you something in confidence about her child, treat it like precious information rather than as gossip. Please!



10. When a female friend is getting divorced, it is not the time to talk about how lucky you got with your husband.

Anything else that you'd like to add?

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