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What Men Really Think: Your Questions Answered!

What Men Really Think: Your Dating Questions Answered!

Can men and women really be just friends? By that, I mean can a man be friends with a woman without "constantly" thinking about having sex with her? —Anonymous, Petaluma, CA

Well, Anonymous, the answer is, "yes!" The myth is that men and women can’t really be "just friends." I'm living proof that this one is just silly. I'd say more than half of my closest friends are women. Now, a few of them I've actually thought about seeing naked, but ultimately, as you get to know each other and get solidly locked into the "friend zone," the prospect of hooking up with them is just downright weird.

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Do men really think of having sex with every woman they meet or look at? Is that the measuring stick on whether a woman is attractive or not, whether he would do her or not? —Anonymous, Petaluma, CA

Anonymous, I do not believe we've addressed the first part of your question here before. No, no, no, no! Not true! Men do not want to hook up with every women they meet — just most of them! Kidding! Just not true, though. Listen, when guys are younger all those hormones are raging and it seems as if we're trying to take a roll in the hay with all the women we can. And truth be told, there were times in my younger years where I woke up wondering, "What in the hell was I thinking?" But as a guy, you get past that nonsense and become more discerning.

As to whether or not a good measuring stick for attractiveness is whether or not the guy would do her — are you serious? Can you think of a better measuring stick? Can you imagine some guy going, "Oh man, you look just like Halle Berry. I would have sex with you because you're so hot, but you don't have a Harvard MBA, I'm going to have to pass. I'm looking for more of a Janet Reno-type."

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Hailing from the San Francisco Bay Area, veteran media professional and author of "Your Straight Male Friend ... Every Woman Should Have One," Marcus has honed his talent and keen ability to convey to women, the inner workings of the male mind via regular forays into the "friend zone." He launched his crusade to bridge the Mars/Venus communication gap as Your Straight Male Friend after realizing that women weren't getting the real story about what motivates men in the game of love, sex, dating and relationships. Now spreading the gospel, "A straight male friend ... every woman should have one!"

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