Party Trend Alert: Bring Your Own Boy

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Singles are saying "Don't bring me presents; bring me a boyfriend!"

On a recent episode of Bravo's Shahs of Sunset, Mercedes "MJ" Javid threw herself a birthday party. In lieu of presents, she asked guests to bring an eligible bachelor her to meet. Could this be the new, burgeoning trend? Instead of "bring your own beer," is the new party attitude BYOB: Bring your own boy?

There is value in having your friends set you up with someone they know. However, it creates a blind date environment that may be slightly uncomfortable, adding pressure to what should be a relaxing night. Make your BYOB party work by following my advice:

1. Keep everyone in the loop. The men should be informed about the theme of the party so there are not any unexpected or embarrassing conversations. Arriving and then finding out about the possible love connection is not wise. These are not the kind of surprise parties people enjoy attending.

2. Have a fair mix of single men and women. It may be the party girl's day, but she can't have her cake, eat it too and have all the boys to herself. An equal mix of people gives the room a nice flow.

3. Keep expectations realistic for the night. Look at it as a fun party with a better chance of meeting someone special. Since the guests have been vetted by people you know, you may meet a prince — or kiss a few frogs, depending on how much champagne you've imbibed.

With Valentine's Day quickly approaching, this could be a great theme to consider for a single's party. With any luck, in a room full of plenty, you'll find your plus-one!

Contributed by Kimberly James, MatchMaster & Dating Expert,

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