Why Tough Love is True Love (EXPERT)

Love, Family

Tough love feels like the opposite of love, but you and your kids will be stronger for it.

You may shudder when you hear the expression tough love. It brings to mind kids out of control and families standing at the edge of a cliff. I'm here to tell you that you don't have to be in crisis to benefit from a tough love approach.

How did you handle the last difficult situation with one of your kids? Odds are you agonized over it. But after that, did you cave in, or did you do what deep down you knew was right, even if it was tough? Perhaps your fear of a fallout with your child, or spouse, held you back. Was there yelling, slammed doors, "I hate you!" or the silent treatment? What was the final outcome, and were you truly, in good conscience, satisfied with your response?

Parenting is hard, no doubt about it. From the day they are born we nurture and protect, teach and guide. Then one day it's time to cut some strings and let the kids figure things out, make some mistakes, and experience the consequences. The problem is, many of us don't know how to let go and let that happen. What nature and nurture brought out in us needs to change, and that change can be gut-wrenching. Keep reading...

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