When He Shows You Who He Really Is, Believe Him!

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Love, Heartbreak

It may be tough, but taking a man's word at face value can help guard your heart

When a guy shows you who he is…believe him!

Here's a question I had first thing this morning:

Client: Question?? Why does a man say he doesn't see a future with you but wont let you walk away and gets jealous if you mention another man? (But still expects to have sex with you) Help!

Dr. Ish: Damn, sorry to hear that. When a guy says he doesn’t see a future with you but still wants to sleep with you it means just that. It’ll never progress to a relationship that’s exclusive but he’ll stick around as long as you let him have sex with you. I’m not sure why you would do that if that’s not what you want because ultimately it’s not going make you happy. When you cut that off he’ll move on — and so will you. You do not need his permission to walk away!

Client: He didn’t say it all at once, I had to drag it out of him and then he said ‘I don’t see us jumping the broom.’

Dr. Ish: Sorry about that but at least he was honest about his lack of plans for you. When a guy shows you who is, believe him. If you stick around hoping it will change and it doesn’t then you’ll have nobody to blame but yourself. The guy who wants what you want is out there, you just have to free yourself so you can find each other.

Natalie Wood once said, “The only time a woman really succeeds in changing a man is when he’s a baby.”

Believe her and believe him. It’s hard knowing when to say 'when' and when to say ‘next’ and move on but if you trust your instincts, really listen to that gut feeling you have as a woman, it’ll never lead you wrong.

Until next time,

Dr. Ish

This article was originally published at http://www.drishmajor.com. Reprinted with permission from the author.