Why Getting Older Adds A Different Kind Of Spice To Your Life


Wisdom comes from being seasoned by the ups and downs of your unique life story.

I see quite a few young adults in my practice. Most have left home for the first time and are navigating how to best make decisions and figuring out how to be happy on their own (at least, happier than they were while living under someone else's roof ... and rules).

When they complain that they are not as happy as they thought they would be, I can't help but think about myself at their age and my dad saying to me, "The world is not made the way you think it is. Just keep on living."

I have the same reaction when I think about my clients who are "more seasoned." Some may say older, but I prefer the term "seasoned." These individuals have more experience, more wisdom, and more time under their proverbial belts. They've actually lived. And while not all older people are happier, the seasoned ones seem happier for three reasons:

  1. They have learned to accept that some things just are the way they are. They may not like or agree with everything or everyone, but they accept what is (or how someone is) and don't allow themselves to dwell on what cannot be changed.
  2. They have learned to create meaning from their relationships with others, while discerning which relationships deserve more time and energy.
  3. The have learned to play the hand that life has given them and, despite life's ups and downs, they recognize that they are still winning.

While one may be older in years, they are not necessarily "seasoned" with wisdom. But the ones who are, seem to make a conscious decision to use their experiences to eliminate blandness from their lives. After all, a little seasoning makes life spicier and happier!