For Love and Ya Ya's

Everyone needs a place that surrounds them with warmth and brings out their creative energies.

Everybody needs a place to call home that is away from home. Quite frankly, every person we know needs a place that takes them in, surrounds them with warmth and love, and lets them be what they aspire to be. You need a place where you go to meet good people within a supportive environment; a place where your creative energies burst forth with unique and clever ideas and your best thinking occurs. Ya Ya's is that place for us.

Nearly every week for several years we have gone to a favorite restaurant of ours in Saint Louis to talk about our research, love and marriage and about all of the wonderful couples we have interviewed over the past 32 years for our four books and our thousands of blogs about love and marriage. Many of our best ideas about our books have been given birth at Ya Ya's. In fact, we could argue that our books were birthed at Ya Ya's!

The truth is, we love Ya Ya's. They have great people who work for them, terrific ownership, a wonderful environment and great food. And while we go there for all this, we go primarily because some of our best thinking occurs there. Ya Ya's is a supportive place where everybody knows your name, where your waiter and your host actually care about you as a person and where the food actually lives up to its hype. What cool people work at Ya Ya's; we love them!

We certainly love their food; frankly, we think it energizes us. In fact, their food may actually possess some secret ingredients that stimulate us on to better thinking and to better writing. We think it is the Calamari Fritto or the Bill's Chicken Salad that makes us clear thinkers. Sometimes, Liz will swear that it’s the many flatbreads they serve that makes all good things happen. Charley swears by the Calamari Fritto. In her quiet moments, Liz agrees – it's the Calamari Fritto! Well, the Chardonnay helps as well. And the company.

Whether it's the Calamari, the House Chardonnay, or the Bill's Salad, one thing is clear about places like Ya Ya's – everybody needs a place where they can go to unwind and think freely and creatively about things that matter in life, love and in their work. For us, it is Ya Ya's. And because of all this, we owe them a lot. We attribute much of our creative energy to them.

For the past 32 years, we have studied successful love, marriage and relationships around the world: in all 50 states of the Union, 49 foreign countries, and on all Seven of the World's Continents. We have eaten many different and exciting foods, sampled a variety of wines, stayed in interesting and exotic places, and met extraordinary people. But through it all, we always come back to the importance of being around honest and loving people. Our life's work has not occurred in isolation from good, decent, and caring people. And yours has not either. In love and in life, people need people. It is hard to imagine life without honest, hard-working, trustworthy and supportive people around us at every turn. Life and love do not exist in a vacuum.

So, friends, may you have your Ya Ya's as we do – a place that unleashes your creative energies. And above all, a place that will take you in when there is no other place to go with your best ideas. For us, it is Ya Ya's in Saint Louis.

So tonight, we want to thank the Ya Ya's manager, Scott, the general manager John, the Executive Chef, Alexander, and all the other marvelous folks who have served us the great food that inspires us – Megan, Kevin, Kim, and Melissa. They help make our life joyful. They help make our life rich. Good people like these are the ones who make you want to write about love, friends, marriage, and loving relationships.

Love and a meal at Ya Ya's  – they go together like wine and cheese. They go together like a good book and a warm fireplace. They go together like us and Ya Ya's. Go find your Ya Ya's! We've found ours.

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