Dr. Brian’s Point:
We all know that guys can love’em and leave’ em, but can you chicks?
I know some of you gals are capable of NSA (No Strings Attached) casual sex, but it seems the vast majority of you just can’t separate sex from your emotions. You need to feel loved to do the deed. Or, at least that’s the message you’re sending to the boys.
NSA sex is a dude’s specialty. Studies have shown that men have more horizontal dance partners then women. The 2005 Durex Global Sex Survey found that men have an average of 10.2, while women have only engulfed 6.9 different peni.
It’s part of our biological heritage that we obviously can’t shake. Male species are supposed to impregnate as many females as possible to propagate their seed. Sexual survival of the fittest at it’s best.
And, guys who excel at taming the puddy get plenty of attention from their buddies. What man wouldn’t want that praise?
Trina, you can’t imagine how many times I’ve heard guys complain about their bedroom conquests turning into stalkers. Sometimes guys just want the ‘wham bam, thank you mam’ kind of sex.
One guy told me about a one-night stand he had where his bed buddy demanded he look lovingly into her eyes while they did the nasty. What did he do? Flipped her on her tummy so he didn’t have to. He didn’t want an emotional connection with her.
Trina, I think you girls should know by now that men are more likely to be emotionally connected with their TV or favourite sports team.
No wonder guys have had more screw mates. They keep trying to find a honey that won’t tie him down. Not literally, cause 20% of guys are into that.
And Trina, since so many of your sisters out there won’t put out without some sort of closeness, it makes it really difficult for guys to have rockin’ good sex with someone new.
Men are usually the ones who get up right after sex, put their clothes on, and walk out the door. Is it possible for women to do the same?
There’s an ‘old’ saying that “women give sex to get love, while men give love to get sex.” Trina, are girls at all capable of having NSA sex like men?
Dr. Trina’s Counterpoint:
Dear, dear, naïve Brian, let me count the ways why women don’t give up their milk so their precious cow can be bought.
I was eating supper with a huge multiple generation family when someone (um, I suppose that would have been me) asked why the fourteen year old boy had a 1:00 a.m. weekend curfew whereas the thirteen year old daughter had to be home no later than 10:00 p.m.
The mother looked at me quizzically and answered, “Because he’s a boy.” A halleluiah chorus erupted by the rest of the family.
“What’s that supposed to mean?” I ventured. Uncomfortable but still undaunted the mother patiently explained, “She can get pregnant, he can’t” And even though everyone at that table agreed that he would have to take responsibility for his actions, him sowing his wild oats was far more acceptable.
Let’s see, women’s emancipation and the birth control pill came out in full force over forty years ago. Yet women have had to live under the Madonna/ whore slotting system that describes a “good” or “bad” women for thousands of years.
Women sleeping around, being bold and audacious with their sexuality is most definitely slotted under the “whore” category. If you don’t believe me, think about everyone getting their knickers in a twist about “Girl’s Gone Wild” videos. People, in general, cannot accept that women are sexual creatures and want to use men for strictly their own sexual pleasure and then toss said men.
Add to this anthropologists believe that men are predisposed biologically to “spread their seed” and impregnate as many women as possible. Whereas women have to be a lot more selective in whom she chooses to mate as she only produces on egg per month.
As such, I’m surprised that at least 40 percent of women are having one night stands as compared to men at 47 percent. That’s pretty darn close.
All things considered women are a lot more sexually emancipated then they were even 25 years ago. They are saying what they want in bed and not feeling guilty when they get as much or more enjoyment out of the sex as him.
However, only time will tell whether or not women will ever be able to truly have NSA sex.