3 Steps To Sharing Sexual Fantasies With Your Partner

How to uncover and share your sexual fantasies with your partner.

You are "priming the pump" of your unconscious. Some of you will be able to connect to your fantasies on the first try; most will have to repeat the process a few times before achieving the desired result. And, don't be surprised if a fantasy pops into your head at a later time "spontaneously." You've planted the seeds and they will grow in their own time, perhaps while you're taking a bath, perhaps while you're driving somewhere. They WILL show up though, I promise. 

The second block is about shame and self-judgment. There is no quick fix for this, as we all have internalized various degrees of judgment and criticism around sexuality, mainly from our early childhood and adolescent experiences. I would suggest for now that you create three positive affirmations about your sexuality that you repeat to yourself out loud 5 times each, twice each day.

Examples could be:
"I am a sexual being with healthy needs and desires."
"Knowing my sexual fantasies is a sign of self-knowledge and self-love."
"Sharing my sexual fantasies is a sign of intimacy and love."

The third block is that you fear what your partner will feel about your fantasies. For the most part, my experience in working with couples over the last 20 years is that your partner will be relieved and excited that you shared your fantasies. It then becomes about communicating and understanding on both of your parts, and co-creating a way to make the fantasy come true. Again, you can prepare YOURSELF to overcome this block with affirmations that remind you that you have a loving partner and to give them the benefit of the doubt in embracing your fantasies. My Unfulfilled Fantasy: Same-Sex Hookups

Examples could be:
"I have a loving partner who accepts and loves me unconditionally."
"I am with a partner who wants to share the deepest intimacy with me."
"I have a loving partner who desires to fulfill my fantasies."

I hope that this article has been helpful, and that you will take this challenge. For those of you that need additional help, I offer tele-coaching programs for couples, as well as for one member of the couple, to help bring back the passion to your relationship. You can reach me at drsheck@passion101.com or by phone at 310-968-1526

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