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6 Sex Rules for People in Relationships

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6 Sex Rules For People In Relationships
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Don't let the sexual spark die.

Sex is an inherent part of any relationship that brings the two partners closer together. However, there are many couples out there who complain of being less than satisfied.

Those in long-term relationships, sometimes, you might feel like you are losing the spark. In this situation, you might want to respect certain sex rules to ensure the much-desired sexual satisfaction.

Here are the 6 rules of sex that will help you feel connected with and loved by your partner:

1. Respond to your partner’s demands.

When it comes to sex, the biggest mistake that we make is concentrating too much on ourselves. While your own satisfaction is quite important, you should never forget about your partner.

Listen to their demands and preferences and try to find ways to satisfy them. A huge turn-on is when you see your partner catering to your needs, especially when it comes to sex.

If you're not certain about your partner’s demands, don't hesitate to talk openly about them. You might be surprised to discover what your partner wants and, at the same time, you'll finally have the courage to express your own demands. Open communication leads to better sex, so don't hesitate to give it a try.  

2. Refrain from making comparisons.

We all have the tendency to compare our lives to others, especially when it comes to relationships and sex. You might feel like other couples have a more satisfying sex life but comparisons will cause only additional problems.

Instead of concentrating on what other people do in the bedroom, it might be for the best to look at your own relationship and find ways to improve it.  

Keep in mind that, on a long-term basis, you might experience both highs and lows. What matters is that you stay connected to your partner and find ways to enjoy yourselves in the bedroom.

Refrain from comparing your partner directly to another person, as this will lead to feelings of inadequacy and low self-esteem.  

3. See the good, not the bad.

When partners have been together for a long time, they have the tendency to see the less-than-positive aspects. This is also valid for the time spent in the bedroom, as partners concentrate more often on turn-offs.

However, when asked about the things that turn them on, they have plenty of praises to make about their partners.  

So, you need to make an effort and try to see your partner as in the first days of the relationship. Compliment them on the simple things and, soon, you will find yourselves to be more than interested in one another.

Refrain from bringing up the things you are less satisfied with, as you will only make matters worse.  

4. Make sex be part of your weekly schedule.

Sex is a necessary thing in a relationship. As studies have shown, couples who have sex at least once a week, are more satisfied with their relationship.

Some fun in the bedroom will bring partners closer together, not to mention it will make them feel better overall. Not to mention, the feeling of closeness will last for several days after, with partners being more attentive to each other’s needs.

Do not raise your expectations too high. Some nights, you might just enjoy the feeling of being close to your partner and caressing each other’s bodies. Other times, you might have a truly satisfying sexual experience.

What matters is that you are in tune and openly discussing your desires.  

5. Date night is a must.

When you have children, you might find it impossible to have sex. Couples with kids are always exhausted and sex seems to be the last thing on their list.

However, as the children grow up and rely less and less on your constant attention, you need to make an effort for your relationship. And a date night, without the kids, represents the perfect idea.  

Ask the grandparents to watch the kids or pay a sitter. Go out to a nice restaurant, see a movie and see where the night takes you. If possible, go away for the weekend and enjoy the time spent together. Try new things and you will see how beneficial the whole experience is for your sexual appetite.  

6. Touch your partner in any way possible.

Couples often complain that they do not have the time to engage in sex. However, even if you are limited for time, this does not mean you should forego all sexual experiences.

There are plenty of things you can try, including oral sex and manual stimulation. Not only will this bring a lot of pleasure to the both of you but it will ensure the feelings of closeness we often enjoy.

Keep in mind that such forms of stimulation can also increase your appetite for sex. Use them wisely and, without any doubt, you will have a great time in the bedroom.

Who knows? You might discover a new path towards the highest peaks of pleasure.  

These are some of the greatest sex rules to follow when you are in a relationship. Do not be afraid to talk to your partner about your needs and desires, as open communication can only help you feel more satisfied in the bedroom.

Donna Begg is an expert editor, a mentor, analyst, and a researcher.

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