41 Inspirational Love Quotes To Remind You What Life's All About

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When my partner travels for business, I write a little love note and tuck it into his suitcase to discover when he unpacks. I want to remind how much I love him when we’re apart.  I do my best to write from the heart, I am a writer for goodness sakes. But sometimes, I just need a little help finding the right words to express the myriad of emotions: love, lust, gratitude, grace, vulnerability, and friendship. I turn to the experts on love: poets and philosophers, authors and therapists, and a variety of wise pop culture idols.

Once, when he went on a two-week trip overseas, I copied dozens of love quotes onto index cards and tucked them in between underwear, dress shirts, and slacks. Thousands of miles away from home, it connected us in a magical way that sometimes lovers need to manage the pain of separation.

I am guessing that you are a lot like me: you want to remind the one you love – as well as yourself – that love is worth the struggle and delight, the pain and the pleasure. Because, no matter the political climate, time period, or place, a favorite topic for rumination is love.

When I went in search of some favorite quotes on love and romance to share here, I discovered similar threads of thought from the ancient Greeks to Modern Day Icons were in line with each other. From Plato to Dolly Parton....Mr. Rogers to Rumi....Julia Child to John O'Donohue, the lovers of love agree:

Love is fabulous. It’s worth the struggle. Love demands of you accept feelings of vulnerability if you desire the full gamut of the human experience. That in order to fully love, you must lean into grace to accept others for who they are. Most importantly, in order to love, the biggest requirement is that you must love yourself.

Here’s forty-one inspirational quotes from famous – and infamous – men and women through the ages.

1. “Better to put your heart on the line, risk everything, and walk away with nothing than play it safe. Love is a lot of things, but “safe” isn’t one of them.”             

―Mandy Hale

2. “We don't fall in love with people because they're good people. We fall in love with people whose darkness we recognise. You can fall in love with a person for all of the right reasons, but that kind of love can still fall apart. But when you fall in love with a person because your monsters have found a home in them― that's the kind of love that owns your skin and bones. Love, I am convinced, is found in the darkness. It is the candle in the night.”         

―C. Joybell C.

3. “I think careful cooking is love, don't you? The loveliest thing you can cook for someone who's close to you is about as nice a valentine as you can give.”

―Julia Child

4. “To me, obligation is not love. Letting someone be open, honest and free - that's love. It's got to come natural and it's got to be real.”

– Dolly Parton

5. “The beginning of love is to let those we love be perfectly themselves, and not to twist them to fit our own image. Otherwise we love only the reflection of ourselves we find in them.”              

―Thomas Merton

6. “Love is a canvas furnished by nature and embroidered by imagination.”

―Voltaire

7. “When we know love matters more than anything, and we know that nothing else REALLY matters, we move into the state of surrender. Surrender does not diminish our power, it enhances it.”     

―Sara Paddison

8. “You know quite well, deep within you, that there is only a single magic, a single power, a single salvation... and that is called loving. Well then, love your suffering. Do not resist it, do not flee from it. It is only your aversion to it that hurts, nothing else.”     

―Hermann Hesse

9.  “You do not have to be good.

You do not have to walk on your knees

for a hundred miles through the desert repenting.

You only have to let the soft animal of your body

love what it loves.

―Mary Oliver

10 “My great hope is to laugh as much as I cry; to get my work done and try to love somebody and have the courage to accept the love in return.”         

―Maya Angelou

11. “Any love makes us vulnerable. Whatever we love will give the gift of pain somewhere along the road. But who would live sealed in spiritual cellophane just to keep from ever being hurt? There are a few people like that. I'm sorry for them. I think they are as good as dead.”     

―Gladys Bagg Taber

12. “Love isn’t a state of perfect caring. It is an active noun like struggle. To love someone is to strive to accept that person exactly the way he or she is, right here and now.”

―Fred Rogers

13. “A lover cannot be chosen a la smorgasbord. A lover has to be chosen from soul-craving. To choose just because something mouthwatering stands before you will never satisfy the hunger of the soul-self. And that is what the intuition is for; it is the direct messenger of the soul.”

― Clarissa Pinkola Estés

14. “Our humanity comes to its fullest bloom in giving. We become beautiful people when we give whatever we can give: a smile, a handshake, a kiss, an embrace, a word of love, a present, a part of our life...all of our life.”  

―Henri Nouwen

15. “Perhaps love is the process of my leading you gently back to yourself”

―Antoine de Saint-Exupery

16. “Let your boat of life be light, packed with only what you need – a homely home and simple pleasures, one or two friends, worth the name, someone to love and someone to love you, a cat, a dog, and a pipe or two, enough to eat and enough to wear, and a little more than enough to drink; for thirst is a dangerous thing.”

―Jerome K. Jerome

‎17. ”When love awakens in your life, in the night of your heart, it is like the dawn breaking within you. Where before there was anonymity, now there is intimacy; where before there was fear, now there is courage; where before in your life there was awkwardness, now there is a rhythm of grace and gracefulness; where before you used to be jagged, now you are elegant and in rhythm with your self. When love awakens in your life, it is like a rebirth, a new beginning.”              

―John O'Donohue

18. “We are all a little weird and life’s a little weird, and when we find someone whose weirdness is compatible with ours, we join up with them and fall in mutual weirdness and call it love.”

―Dr. Seuss

19. “Relish love in your old age! Aged love is like aged wine; it becomes more satisfying, more refreshing, more valuable, more appreciated and more intoxicating!”     

Leo Buscaglia

20. “Once you have drunk from the water of unconditional love, no other well can satisfy your thirst. The pangs of separation may become so intense that seeking the affection of the Beloved becomes an obsession.”             

―Ram Dass

21. “Loving can cost a lot but not loving always costs more, and those who fear to love often find that want of love is an emptiness that robs the joy from life.”     

―Merle Shain

22. “Love can be hard. Love requires you to be kind when you are angry, patient when you feel anxious, compassionate when you judge others, caring when you feel apathetic, trust when you've been wronged, let go when you want to hold on, know that the other person is you, take risks when you're scared, to always see the lesson and never look back once you've decided.”

― Jackson Kiddard

23. “We may tell ourselves that love is not really available. but the deeper truth is that we don't entirely trust it, and therefore have a hard time fully opening to it or letting it all the way into us. This disconnects us from our own heart, exacerbating our sense of love's scarcity.”

― John Welwood

24. “We are desire. It is the essence of the human Soul, the secret of our existence. Absolutely nothing of human greatness is ever accomplished without it. Not a symphony has been written, a mountain climbed, an injustice fought, or a love sustained apart from desire. Desire fuels our search for the life we prize.”

―John Elderidge

25. “Much healing can occur through the sexual act with a person you love and trust if the two of you can stay with each other during your most vulnerable moments. You enter into a sacred space, this unknown territory, from which you’ll emerge into new and unexpected states of being.” 

―Alexandra Katehakis

26. “Self-love, my liege, is not so vile a sin, as self-neglecting.”

―William Shakespeare, Henry V.

27. “Love is the free exercise of choice. Two people love each other only when they are quite capable of living without each other but choose to live with each other.”

―M. Scott Peck

28. “You can’t substitute material things for love or for gentleness or for tenderness or for a sense of comradeship. Money is not a substitute for tenderness, and power is not a substitute for tenderness.”

―Mitch Albom

29. “Love comes when manipulation stops; when you think more about the other person than about his or her reactions to you. When you dare to reveal yourself fully. When you dare to be vulnerable.” 

―Dr. Joyce Brothers

30. “For one human being to love another; that is perhaps the most difficult of all our tasks, the ultimate, the last test and proof, the work for which all other work is but preparation.”   

―Rainer Maria Rilke

31. “The choice to follow love through to its completion is the choice to seek completion within ourselves. The point at which we shut down on others is the point at which we shut down on life. “    

―Marianne Williamson

32. “Loving yourself…does not mean being self-absorbed or narcissistic, or disregarding others. Rather it means welcoming yourself as the most honored guest in your own heart, a guest worthy of respect, a lovable companion.”            

―Margo Anand

33. “Love is not something we give or get; it is something that we nurture and grow, a connection that can only be cultivated between two people when it exists within each one of them—we can only love others as much as we love ourselves.”        

―Brene Brown

34. “When your life is nearly over, you will regret it if you look back and recall too many nights when you made excuses instead of making love.”

― Barbara Cooper

35. “You will find as you look back upon your life that the moments when you have truly lived are the moments when you have done things in the spirit of love.”  

―Henry Drummond

36. “Every heart sings a song, incomplete, until another heart whispers back. Those who wish to sing always find a song. At the touch of a lover, everyone becomes a poet.”         

―Plato

37. “Life is short, Break the Rules. Forgive quickly, Kiss SLOWLY. Love truly. Laugh uncontrollably And never regret ANYTHING. That makes you smile.”

― Mark Twain

38. “You don't need to justify your love, you don't need to explain your love, you just need to practice your love. Practice creates the master.”

―Miguel Ruiz

39. “To the people who love you, you are beautiful already. This is not because they’re blind to your shortcomings but because they so clearly see your soul. Your shortcomings then dim by comparison. The people who care about you are willing to let you be imperfect and beautiful, too.”    

―Victoria Moran

40. “The minute I heard my first love story I started looking for you, not knowing how blind that was. Lovers don't finally meet somewhere. They're in each other all along.”

― Rumi

41. “Do you want me to tell you something really subversive? Love is everything it's cracked up to be. That's why people are so cynical about it. It really is worth fighting for, being brave for, risking everything for. And the trouble is, if you don't risk anything, you risk even more.”

―Erica Jong

Debra Smouse is a Tarnished Southern Belle who discovered that when she fell in love with her life, it loved her right back. Visit her website or connect with her on Instagram, Twitter or Facebook.

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