Dating: Should You Date Your Spouse?

Love, Family

Placing your marriage on the back burner is never a good idea. Steps to make things interesting...

So now the kids are back to school and the sports have begun,  the weekends are filled with activities and family time, leaving little time for you and your partner to adult activities, just the both of you.   Placing your marriage on the back burner is never a good idea. It’s at that back burner where the pot boils but doesn’t get tended to  As divorce mediators have couples come to us to separate.  Like Bob and Linda said to each other one night as they found themselves home alone and their teenagers out with their friends for the night, “Who are you?” 
They both drifted from each other and their marriage faded away.
That’s why it is extremely vital to you, your spouse and your children that you keep the romance and connection in marriage alive.  The problem is, the two of you are exhausted by the end of the day and there is absolutely no couple time. Depending on the age of the children, there are multiple approaches you could take.  If the children are young, then make sure you put the children to bed at an early time.  If the children are older, you may have to get a sitter.  When the children are 12 and older, this may get tricky, because they may be too old for a sitter and too young to go to bed early.  At this stage you may need to work out a plan for the kids to spend a Friday night or Saturday night with their friends.  Get creative because you need that alone time, Swap with the other parents to get a night out.
So now what? Some couples who have not had a date nice since before their kids were born are at a loss as to what to do and where to go. That’s normal, but do yourselves a favor,  don’t just go out to a movie, or stay home to watch Netflix.  Spend the time getting reconnected in different ways.  Get intimate, take a  bubble bath with candles, music and a bottle of wine (providing  the kids are out of the house).
As you both enjoy each other’s company here are a list of questions. Click here for the link. ,If the bubble bath is not an option try outdoor activities, together like tennis, hiking, biking or whatever, as long as it’s not shopping and by the way, walking does not count if it at the mall   If the weather is beautiful take a picnic  in central park or just take a day in the city and walk through the many neighborhoods  Talk about topics but avoid talking about the kids.
Get creative, do something, paint a picture together.  Just splash some colors over a canvas.  Have fun, get crazy, laugh, get excited about something new together.  Happy parents, make happy kids.  Even if you don’t spend the time with the kids, they will get the benefit of having parents that are really into each other. We look forward to hearing from you.

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