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What's Love Got To Do With It?

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What about love, which drives some people to extreme emotional reactions, entices us, yet eludes us?

Love is a beautiful thing. Love makes the world go 'round. What the world needs now is love, sweet love. All you need is love. The songs of our youth and our life's soundtrack bespeak the power, the wonder, the beauty and the magic of love.

Who Wrote the Book of Love?

Love is such a wonderful and integral part of the human experience. It's probably the most compelling of emotions in our psyche. Yet, so many of us have a difficult time finding it, recognizing it, appreciating it and keeping it. Some people even have a hard time feeling it. Why is that? What about love, which drives some people to extreme emotional reactions, entices us yet eludes us?

With the vast array of books on the subject, you could certainly do research and discover what others say about love. However, the fact that there are so many books by so many writers clearly says one thing; there is no single answer. Finding true love is a complex journey of discovery that begins and ends within.

I Fought the Law and the Law Won

The Law of Attraction dictates certain specifics with regards to action and reaction. Many of those actions and reactions are instinctive by virtue of our DNA. Other elements of the Law of Attraction are more related to societal influences. What attracts you to another person and them to you is usually defined by the collective complexities of your individual life experiences, personalities and values. For example, if a flirtation inspires you to creatively pursue the person flirting, that's a natural reaction. If you're married and you pursue that person, that's a societal influence.

It's important to recognize the subtle nuances that affect your decision process with regard to interpersonal relationships. Accept and adapt to the ones created by nature while you fine-tune the ones inspired by nurture. Once you can effectively do that, you can relax and let love happen naturally. It will. If you aren't single, the laws of marital infidelity apply. You do not want to challenge those laws.

More Than a Feeling

Love is much more than a feeling of happiness that you get being with someone special. That feeling of elation could actually be a result of emotional security simply because another person finds you attractive or intellectually stimulating and wants to spend time with you. It could also be a result of being sexually satisfied, glowing and knowing that you're providing the same joy for your partner. Your happiness could actually be a result of having found someone who shares similar interests, therefore validating your self-esteem. None of those reasons are bad or wrong but even all together they don't necessarily mean that love is in the air.

Looking for Love in All the Wrong Places

The road to true love can be fraught with bumps, holes, trip wires, distractions and wrong turns. Often, couples who have been in a steady relationship for many years are still unable to accurately define their feelings. They don't know if they're in love or in lust. They're not sure if the person they're with is the right partner for the rest of their life or even the right partner for the rest of the day. Without being openly recognized as such, it might just be a relationship of convenience and circumstances.

An occasional evaluation is healthy. It should be a well thought out evaluation. Consider the negatives as well as the positives. The sum of all that you are needs to feel that you and your partner are together as a result of your combined joy. If, in evaluating your relationship, you can say that you are both happy being together, you're in a very good place for love to develop.

 

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