The Art Of Flirting: 8 Tips To Know

So I decided to dissect what I do instinctually.

  • Be relaxed and comfortable in your environment. Make sure you are not stiff or anxious.
  • Don’t care about the outcome- or how you will be perceived. You need a casual attitude about this. It’s like going fishing – you are just putting the bait out there and seeing if your intended love interest is willing to take the bait.
  • Show you are interested by smiling and have an open stance as your body language as opposed to your arms being crossed, having a closed stance and appearing not really interested in the person you are attempting to flirt with.
  • Look that person directly in the eyes when talking to him or her.
  • Talk to the person as if you know them already.
  • If you are really bold, make a sincere compliment about them. If it’s sincere, it won’t come off corny!
  • Lean into the person and even touch them on the side of their arm briefly.
  • Keep the banter light and fun!

You can experiment with flirting at your next singles’ social event. Whenever you flirt, make sure your intended is unattached.

By the way, I don’t recommend flirting with people who are total strangers or no one you know seems to know anything about this person. My whole Motivated to Marry premise is to choose people that are available for a relationship. I think it best to flirt with people that you know you have common interests and life goals. Flirting works best in social and activity groups for singles, single’s travel groups and events that are intended for single people.

I do not propose picking up people at bars, grocery stores, gas stations or even Starbucks. They may not really be available (or even married) and you may be asking for trouble!

So at your next Meetup or social event, give flirting a try. It may take some practice. Have fun with it!


Coach Amy

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