3 Step Formula For How To Find Someone To Date

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Want to find someone to date? This three step formula is simple, easy and results driven.

The best ways to meet someone to date are simple, easy and results driven. We tested the formula to save you from wasting time, energy and resources while trying to find someone to date.

Want to get intentional about how to find someone to date instead of just leaving it up to chance? Keep reading.

Three Step Formula for How to Find Someone to Date

Step One: Make Your Online Presence Do The Work 

Recent academic research has shown that about one third of couples getting married met online and experience higher marital satisfaction than those who met offline.  About half met on dating websites and the rest met over a mix of social media sites or other sites.

Meeting people online can feel scary for some who have not used it before. Use your gut and take the same precautions about meeting people you do in the real world. Plan to spend about 30 minutes to 1 hour a day on interacting with potential matches.

Online Dating: Get an online dating profile up on at least one of the sites out there. Tip: men and women are different and so your profile needs to be written for who you are trying to attract. If you'd like more support for online dating, check out our offerings.  

Social Media:  Considering making your Facebook or Linked In profiles searchable and have a fantastic photo up. There are plenty of ways to maintain your safety on these sites while still flying the happy and single flag. Lots of old flames are finding their way to each other through social media connections.

Step Two: The Solo Adventure

Where are the men or women you want to meet hanging out?

The strategy is plain and simple. Go where your matches are going.

This is a little different than what others may be telling you about going where you want to go and while you are busy being happy you’ll just happen to meet your match.

Your perfect match may have different habits while single than when partnered. Hey guys, how many women are hanging out at the driving range?  Hey ladies…that’s one more idea.  Come to think of it, we've met men at the bar at the golf course.

Plan to go on two to four solo adventures a month in your search for someone to date and check out our resources on meeting singles.

If you’re looking for a successful and masculine man who would appreciate a woman who cooks for him, he might be having dinner at the bar of his favorite steak house a few nights a week.

Looking for a sporty guy, find him at the local sports bar on a night when there are no big games playing on the TVs (otherwise he will only be focused on the game).

Looking for a woman who is sophisticated and educated? Try an evening mixer at a local museum.

Looking for a down to earth girl? Try a local coffee shop.

Step 3: Slow Down, Smile, Make Eye Contact and Say Hello

Adopt a new habit as you go about your daily routines. Become the person who meets lots of new people everywhere they go. It’s so easy we promise anyone can do this. We are both introverts and both manage to do this most days.

  • Slow Down.
  • Notice people and who is noticing you.
  • Smile.  It’s as easy as deciding to do it and putting a visual in your head that makes you smile. A warm smile makes a woman or man look approachable.
  • Make Eye Contact. When you are interested in someone make eye contact and hold it longer than feels natural.
  • Say “Hello”. This is how conversations start and if they are not interested they will just move on and you have nothing lost because all you did was say hello.
  • Connect and be receptive. Find something in common and let someone know you are receptive to connecting outside of this encounter.

These three steps work to meet new people to date.  If you find yourself getting burned out from putting a lot of effort out and not getting the results you want, you might need to step back and take a quick break.  When we're burned out we never show up as our best selves and people just aren't as attracted to us.   Take good care of yourself, use this three step formula and if you find you're still not getting the results that you want, then see if getting some dating support and learning more about the differences between men and women are just the slight adjustment that will empower you to go from frustrated to meeting the right people to date!  

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Why do you think people give up on finding someone to date? Leave us a comment below. 

This article was originally published at Claudette & Shelley. Reprinted with permission from the author.