Apparently, the Butt is the '"It" factor in sex appeal this summer...no kidding! How's Yours?
$848,000,000 was spent on Shapewear by American women last year. $848 MILLION.
What if that very fashion accessory is KEEPING YOU SINGLE?
On a recent CBS Morning Show there was a feature on a segment of that market, the Booty Boosters. Apparently, the Butt is the '"It" factor in sex appeal this summer...no kidding!
According to the report, Beyonce and Kim Kardashian are making big money showing off their full, curvy butts and women all over the country are buying butt pads to enhance their booties.
How is this hurting your soul mate search?
The problem is that at the end of the day, you will be taking off your faux butt, taking out your contacts, peeling off your Spanx, sponging off your eye makeup and in every way being your true physical self with your man.
If you want to attract True Love, there is only one way and that is to fully accept yourself....just the way you are, right now. I don't know a single woman who doesn't dislike at least one part of their bodies. How about you?
Are your teeth too yellow? This is my personal challenge. Even tooth whitening doesn't help. Yes, the treatment lifted my color two to three shades but that is not enough to please me.
It doesn't help that NOBODY on stage and screen has 'normal' colored teeth anymore. Don't believe me? Watch a movie from the 70's and look at the smiles.
Maybe you wear glasses and over depend on your contacts for your sense of self worth. Do you feel ugly with your glasses on?
Is your hair your challenge? Too curly, too straight, too frizzy, too little of it, too much of it? Do you know that people spend over 2 trillion dollars on hair care products and services in one year?
Maybe it is your height that bothers you. Is it near impossible to meet a man who is tall enough for your preferences? Do you dislike being so short? Maybe you hate your feet, your freckles or your facial hair.
The botox business is booming and don't get me started about plastic surgery. Imagine how much travel you could pay for with the money you are spending to create an image you hope will attract Love and Connection.
What's a body to do?!?
There is nothing wrong with enhancing and preening and preparing yourself to be noticed. Illusion is fun and an important part of seduction and romance. Women have been using cosmetics and jewelry for thousands of years to attract a man's attention.
The woman who get what she wants....a lasting relationship with a man who adores her, is the woman who knows the biggest secret of all.
She knows that the Truth of her attraction is her ability to accept herself...warts and all. She knows that her external appearance is but a glimpse of her full Essence. She understands that at the end of the day, a man wants to come home to someone who accepts him completely.
It is a humbling experience to feel deeply accepted by another human being....with no strings. When you know you can offer that to a man, you are irresistible.
The best way to practice this magical attraction tool is to use yourself as a test bunny. Write a list of all of the things that you don't like about yourself. How many do you come up with?
If you only have 1 or 2, yay! You are a role model for others and you no doubt have many friends and colleagues who enrich your life right now. Even if you are still single, you are probably pretty content with your status right now.
If you have 4 or 5 flaws that bother you, you are about average. You may find support in 12 step groups or a Course in Miracles Class. Make a plan to cut your list in half.
Make a conscious effort to accept yourself at a deeper level than you have. Your loneliness and isolation are directly related to these aspects that are draining you.
If you have over 7 personal issues that you dislike about yourself, I suggest you find a mentor, coach or counselor. It is exhausting to carry this much self-criticism. Believe me, no one notices whether your freckles are getting darker or your feet have a strange shape.
What makes a man feel great with you is his CONNECTION to you. If he feels like you "get him" he will adore you. The few 'flaws' that you have and are trying to cover up are keeping True Love just out of your reach.
Next time you want to buy something new to enhance your Outer Look, look in the mirror and ask yourself..."Will this help me accept myself or hide myself?"
This simple question is a powerful step in tuning in to your true identity. It is who you REALLY are that is irresistible to that special someone!
Catherine Behan is a Dating, Sex and Intimacy Coach practicing in San Diego, CA. For a free 20 minute chat to talk about manifesting your Last First Date, click here.
This article was originally published at Breakup Candy. Reprinted with permission from the author.