What He'll Be Like As Your Ex, Based On His Zodiac Sign

When you're in the process of getting over a painful breakup with someone you love, it's natural to wonder about your ex-boyfriend (or ex-girlfriend) and how they're feeling about you now, regardless of who ended the relationship.

Is he sad? Mad? Angry? Hurt? Happy? Does he miss me? Does he still love me? Will he come back?

Sometimes, you just wonder if you had any sort of lasting effect on them at all.

The answers to these questions you typically ask yourself depend not only on what your relationship was like, but on your ex's core personality and defining characteristics.

And that's where astrology and understanding the dominant traits correlating to the zodiac signs comes into play.

Studying a man's astrological sign can give you a look into what's really going on in his mind — from what he's thinking and feeling to what he regrets most about the ending of your relationship.

Does he hide his emotions, or does he let people see his broken heart out there on his sleeve in its full glory?

For example, an Aries man doesn’t like to lose at anything ... ever. And to be honest, it doesn’t matter who broke up with whom, because an Aries will look at a break up as a loss or failure, no matter what.

On the other hand, a Libra male will take a while to get over losing you, not because of the emotional involvement he invested in the relationship, but because breaking up reveals the negative traits he works so hard to keep hidden behind that mask he's wearing all the time.

So, if you’re wondering how your ex-boyfriend is handling (or not handling!) breaking up with you and whether or not he misses you, loves you and wants you back, read on!

Here's what your ex-boyfriend is thinking and feeling — plus what you will and will not miss about him — when getting over a breakup, based on his zodiac sign.

Aries (March 21-April 19)

Did your Aries man try to mold you into his perfect person? Did he make sure you knew when you weren’t doing something right? He’s had his perfect mate clearly defined from a young age and would have continued to trying to mold you had you not broken up.

How does he feel about the breakup? He may try to contact you, but not because he’s heartbroken or torn. He wants reassurance that both of you know, at least on some level, this was all your fault so he doesn’t have to accept responsibility.

As an ex, an Aries man will behave in one of two ways during a breakup: he'll either suffer in deep pain or he'll be perfectly fine because you were just another notch on his belt. Either way, he'll be sure to rub it in when he gets into a new relationship with someone else.

Regardless of which path your Aries-ex takes, a breakup with an Aries man is never easy.

Taurus (April 20-May 20)

Oh, poor Taurus. He just wants to wallow in grief. But that's only because he would rather be alone than start deal with any confrontation with you. The breakup already shattered his pride, and he’d rather not risk any more damage to his self-image.

On the plus side, he'll be very honest about the relationship, and he also won’t spread rumors or mess with your reputation.

However, if you try to antagonize a male Taurus and push him to his limit, watch out for that temper, and don’t say I didn’t warn you!

You’ll miss his performances in bed, to say the least. What the Taurus man lacked in romance was redeemed by his way with you in the bedroom. He usually flowers his significant other with compliments, and boasts about you to everyone he knows, and you’ll miss how that feels.

You absolutely won’t miss his picking and choosing of what he feels like talking about and ignoring everything else, though, and you won’t have to deal with his excuses anymore.

So forget trying to decide whether or not he's missing you. You're already better off. Keep moving on!

Gemini (May 21-June 20)

When the breakup is fresh, a male Gemini won't be sure how he feels about the situation. He’s doesn't know exactly how he’ll manage without you, but he does know that doing so is possible. If your relationship with him wasn’t particularly serious or committed, he won’t have a problem getting over it.

If it was a serious and committed relationship, his depressed mood and isolation are most likely legitimate. He probably won't attempt to hurt you or ruin your reputation, because doing so would only cause him more pain and heartache. Depending on the seriousness of the relationship and the extent of his post-breakup depression, he may even be convincing himself that you'll come back to him soon.

You'll miss this highly entertaining man, as he's always up to something or wanting to explore and go on adventures. You’ll also miss the compliments he showered you with consistently.

But you absolutely won’t miss his lack of ambition or drive, his constant flirting, or him telling you about all the attractive and interesting women he's met.

Cancer (June 21-July 22)

One of the things you probably had trouble accepting in the relationship was the devotion your male Cancer gave his friends and family. He wouldn’t understand why on Earth you would ever be mad that he spent an entire night with his female friend while she cried on his shoulder because of her own breakup, and he'd often get confused as to why you'd be upset about "totally normal" things like that.

While the male Cancer can be sentimental and sensitive, as they are well known for, they can also be the opposite, turning cruel when it comes to their exes.

He may carry over some tender and sweet characteristics into the breakup, but not for reasons you may think. This is a manipulative tactic to gain your continued loyalty while protecting himself from engaging in any unwanted confrontation with you.

You’ll miss his fun-loving way of life, as well as his ability to make you feel safe, comfortable, and secure. You’ll miss his classic romantic abilities and how he used to make you feel like the only person in the room.

You most definitely won’t miss his clingy-ness. You also won’t miss how difficult it was to talk with him, as he became defensive more often than not.

Leo (July 23-August 22)

The male Leo is not someone you particularly want as an ex. Breakups damage their pride and bruise their ego. If you’re not miserable about the breakup, he will wonder why, and if you are miserable about it, he’ll go boast to his friends. He does possess warm-hearted and genuine characteristics, but the Leo male is bitter after a breakup, especially if you initiated it.

To the male Leo, there’s always a winner and a loser. Because he doesn’t know which one he is, it’s eating him alive. Things are never simple when it comes to this man, so don’t think the breakup will be any different. He’ll stay in contact for a while and attempt to be like a ghost who haunts you in your sleep.

You'll miss how warm and cuddly the Leo man was. You’ll miss the unconditional support he provided you and his encouragement to fulfill your dreams and passions.

You will absolutely never miss the chaotic drama and attention-seeking of a Leo man. And you won’t miss his ego one bit.

Virgo (August 23-September 22)

You may have thought someone hated you in the past, but nothing comes close to the male Virgo’s hatred for you after you've broken up. He will throw everything you’ve ever told him in your face and attempt to make you feel bad or weak. He has no regard for your feelings or intentions. He has a one-track mind when it comes to breakups. The Virgo man who once believed in you whole-heartedly now feels there’s nothing you'll ever succeed in doing something to better yourself.

He'll remain passionate about the progress you make toward your goals, or the lack of it. The Virgo male will not get all gung-ho about your successes, but if he knows you’re failing at something, he’ll be thrilled! On the upside of things, your relationship with him may have taught you a lot about yourself and relationships, and you're becoming a stronger person because of it.

You’ll miss his annoying qualities because, being insightful as you are, you knew he was hiding his insecurities.

You won’t miss having to break down his endless walls, because you realized those defensive walls were never fully coming down no matter. You saved yourself a lot of energy and stress!

Libra (September 23-October 22)

You may not have any friends left after this breakup, because the Libra male has absolutely no problem turning all of your friends against you. He’ll want to isolate you and make you feel alone. Underneath the cruelty, there's a deeper reason he wants you to be alone — he's scared that he's made a huge mistake. The perfect mask he puts on for the world to see feels threatened when he believes he may be in the wrong.

It takes a while for Libras to get over a breakup, but not because they're emotionally attached or involved. Rather, it's because breakups bring their negative traits to the forefront rather than keeping them hidden behind the hundreds of masks they like to wear.

The male Libra will be a little paranoid, seeing as you are now free to do what you want, and he'll frequently wonder what you are up. In particular, he often wonders if you’re talking badly about him or making him out to be a bad person when you speak of him to others.

You’ll miss the way he looked deeply into your eyes and always had the right thing to say at any given moment.

You will definitely not miss his manipulation and his ability to lie about anything with a straight face and minimal remorse.

Scorpio (October 23-November 21)

While you were together, he would either make you feel on top of the world and like nothing could stop you two, or he'd completely shun you like you’d committed a heinous crime. Now, the Scorpio man won’t know whether to approach you or ignore you. He’ll find himself torn between wanting to do one and knowing he should do the other at all times.

He'll either try to win you back or teach you a lesson. There is no middle ground for them. If he’s secure, he’ll most likely ignore you. On the other hand, an insecure Scorpion may have you pulling out all of your hair. It all depends on who ended the relationship, why it ended and if there was closure. If there wasn’t closure for him, he’ll make sure there will be.

You’ll miss his drive and the motivation that once enticed you, and the way he took care of you in questionable moments when you thought you’d never make it through.

You will not miss his stalking behaviors and tendencies. It’s like he doesn’t realize you knew when you two were together that he followed you around. What scared him the most was deep down inside, he knew you had free choice to do what you please, and that terrified him. But now you're free, so go do it!

Sagittarius (November 22-December 21)

He won’t be thinking about you. And let’s just say that if he is thinking about you, it won't be for reasons you'd like or expect, such as missing you or still being in love. He’ll use manipulative tactics to forget about you, like sleeping around. He rarely accepts that he's done anything wrong. Unfortunately, it never seemed to be about you and what you wanted or needed, and it never will be.

If he is “sorry”, it’s usually not because of something he did, but rather that the consequences he's facing now don't feel worth it, or that what he did wasn’t as fun as he thought it would be. But he won’t be sorry because he hurt you. If you see him out and about, his simple flirtations and friendliness may also bring out some suspicions about betrayal.

He was probably a lot of fun to be with, as Sagittarius men usually are. You will miss his people-pleasing personality and the way he’d converse with anyone, anywhere, anytime.

You won’t miss wondering if you were the only one he was sharing his bed with, or the way he was never willing to compromise and, if you two did reach agreements, you were always the one giving in.

Capricorn (December 22-January 19)

You feel a bit freer and more in control of your life now that your Capricorn ex is out of the picture. Capricorns have a strong need for being in control. It’s their way or get kicked to the curb.

Capricorn men are hyper-critical of people, and that was no exception with you. You are probably looking forward to doing what you want to do now without having him tell you what you’re doing wrong. You could pretty much never do anything right, according to him.

The Capricorn male is strongly opinionated, even when his opinion is not requested! As an ex-boyfriend, he harbors bitterness he won’t show for quite some time, if ever. But be prepared for it.

He was a perfectionist and he wanted you to be one as well. The problem here is … no one is perfect, and therefore, you were always going to fail in his eyes. Because of that same perfectionism, he'll never admit to anyone how much you really did mean to him, let alone be caught trying to win you back. He probably won’t show much emotion at all — not like he ever displayed too much of it when you were together.

Aquarius (January 20-February 18)

Were you tired about hearing how awesome he was? Lucky for you, that’s over now. He was highly motivated and had the drive, but at your expense. As a now ex, his pride is damaged and his ego has been shattered. Depending on the circumstances, he’ll react to you based on just how much his pride has been wounded.

The Aquarius man will be very careful around you. But that doesn’t mean he won’t do everything in his power to take you down behind your back. He may spread rumors about you.

And just when you think he's gone for good, he’ll show up. Don’t ever think he won’t come back around.

You will miss the adventures you two used to go on. His spontaneity was one of the most attractive things about him. You fed off of his strength and confidence, as it was infectious.

You won’t miss his self-centeredness or that he was only there for you when it either benefited him or happened to be convenient.

Pisces (February 19-March 20)

How good was he at playing the victim? Even when something was undoubtedly his fault, he could somehow twist it and make himself the victim. It’s like a craft that he's mastered. He's not totally unaware that he was manipulative in order to get what he wanted — he doesn’t understand that people don’t have to play games to get what they want.

As an ex, don’t think he'll be any different. He will exaggerate stories and make things out to be as awful as he can, no matter how it makes you look or what really happened. He centers himself around being the victim, like a helpless puppy. Even as an ex, he’ll still expect you to consider his needs and wants above all.

You’ll miss his sweet and sensitive characteristics, but just remember, manipulation is his master craft.

You won’t miss the childish games he played with your mind, that’s for sure. And the thing you won’t miss the most is the weekly pity parties he likes throwing himself about responsibilities he can't or won't accept in situations that hurt or upset him.

Every person is unique in how they handle breakups, and as previously noted, their personality has a lot to do with it.

Introverts and extroverts deal with things differently, as well as those who are sensitive and those who aren’t.

Since our sun signs symbolize the basic characteristics of our personality, it makes sense to use what we know about them through astrology to our advantage.

This doesn’t mean that every guy will act or do the same thing based on their sign. There are exceptions to all rules and context needs to be taken into consideration as well.

But the overall theme for each of the zodiac signs will be generally consistent, even if the way they act upon it may seem different.

Brittney Lindstrom is a licensed professional counselor and certified rehabilitation counselor.

This article was originally published at Thought Catalog. Reprinted with permission from the author.