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Keep life interesting. Find out how you can find adventure anywhere.

Do you know that there is a part of each of ourselves that needs adventure and daring. Boredom is not a healthy state. We all need change and variety. The question is, how can we get changes in our lives without taking unnecessary risks?

Sometimes we are hampered by health, sometimes by money and sometimes we just are too overloaded in our daily patterns of life to build in anything new. But still, that innate need for change and variation in our lives will claw at us, whether we listen to it or not.

I certainly know that I have a desire for stimulation beyond the routines of my life. When I was young, I wanted to meet people from other lands and desperately wanted the adventures of travel. That part of me was slightly satisfied by a pen pal from Wales when I was in high school. But really, I simply still craved travel and it nagged at me until I went to Europe on my own with a friend at 20.

It still nags at me. Fortunately, I have discovered, as I age, that we can often find adventure and new friendships right in front of our noses. Here are two examples from my life.

A few years ago I went to NYC to do my monthly television show, "The Enchanted Self." I took the subway (or I should say, I tried to take the subway) downtown to Chambers street to do a bit of shopping beforehand. As I waited on the platform, I saw one of those truly unique characters that could only be either a true eccentric living in NYC or a character actor. Which was he in his frock coat and derby hat?

I was so busy imagining! Suddenly, we were on the same train together. He asked how to get to Chambers street and I told him. Then I suggested he cross the platform at 14th street to hop the express, which I was about to do. He did, and that was the beginning of an adventure.

First of all, the subway car started and we suddenly realized it was going uptown, not downtown. Secondly, he told me that he had to get downtown to Chambers street to stop in at The New York Sun magazine. He had been hired by them to promote the new paper. Ah! He was a character actor. I was so excited.

I asked him whom he was portraying. He told me that he does Teddy Roosevelt, all over the country. His name is James Foote. The next thirty minutes were as if in a dream. He kept going in and out of character. He gave me Teddy's opinions on the world as it is today. He also explained that the White House was called as such by Teddy. Prior to that, it had been the executive mansion. He told me the sad story of how Teddy lost his first wife and mother within a couple of days and how he went into the wilderness for a couple of years to restore his sense of well-being and optimism.

Interesting to me, optimism was one of Teddy's major personality traits. It may have been the hot subway, but it was music to my ears to hear: "Always do the best you can with what you have and where you are." We certainly had to, as once again we were on the wrong train and it actually started back uptown at 14th street. On the third try, we finally emerged at Chambers street.

Mr. Foote reminded me (I never knew this) that the subways were first put in because there had been a snowstorm in NYC that paralyzed the city for weeks and weeks. Mr. Roosevelt was significant in getting the subways built. How ironic, that we were going back and forth, as we were on the line affected by 9/11. As infrequent travelers, neither of us realized that most of the trains only went to 14th street and then started back up. But then, if we had realized this fact, I wouldn’t have had such a great adventure!

I emerged from the underground a changed woman. Imagine Teddy Roosevelt and myself in conversation? (P.S. Do you know why Teddy Bears are called Teddy Bears? I do now.)

Watch my video "Do You Ever Wish Your Life Were More Adventurous"

Dr. Barbara Becker Holstein, internationally known Positive Psychologist is the creator of The Enchanted Self ®, a positive psychology method for happiness. She is in private practice in Long Branch, New Jersey with her husband, Dr. Russell M. Holstein. Dr. Barbara can be found on the web, interviewed, writing articles and posting video 'TED' style talks on Happiness, Positive Psychology, Relationships and Parenting.

She has been a contributor to Heart and Soul, Cosmopolitan Magazine, Redbook, Real Simple, The Wall Street Journal, Time on line, the Today Show and Family Circle Magazine. Some of her books include: The Enchanted Self, A Positive Therapy; The Truth, Diary of a Gutsy Tween and Around Every Corner, Romance & Mystery.  All can be found on Amazon. Major websites include: www.enchantedself.com, www.thetruthforgirls.com and on Facebook: Dr. Barbara Becker Holstein-Psychologist & Author. Tweet her at: @drbholstein or @truth4girls.

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This article was originally published at http://www.enchantedself.com. Reprinted with permission from the author.