Is He Into You?

Love, Heartbreak

It's time to stop pretending. Maybe it didn't work, so what? Find someone who sees how great you are

First Date

You had a great time. You think he is into you but he didn’t call. He was so easy to talk to, you felt like you've known him for years. He seemed to have the same tastes in food and movies. You told your best friend that you may have found your Mr. Right, and described how well you got along and are looking forward to seeing him again. Everything is going great... or you thought it was. The next day passes and no phone call, text or email. After a week, you stop constantly checking your phone and email or making excuses for him and accept that he’s not going to call you.

He Didn’t Call

Why doesn’t he call? How do you handle the rejection? You could head for the ice cream shop and drown your sorrows in scoops of rich ice cream with cookies and sprinkles on top or hang around the house in your old sweat pants and cry.

Drinking alcohol, driving too fast or getting angry and talking about him are other destructive ways to cope with your sadness. You might act that way in private or with friends, but don’t publicize your anger toward him because eventually you might run into him again.

If you work in the same company, or even within the same industry, chances are you’ll see him again. If you met him through friends, then you can count on landing in the same social setting before too long.

But Fact is You Don’t Want Him if He’s Not Into You

How you handle yourself in these situations is going to be seen by others, so you need to think it over before it happens to avoid making a fool of yourself over a guy who doesn’t deserve your attention.

Maybe you’ve imagined how you might tell him off – but is that really what you should do? First of all, if he didn’t care enough about you to call after the date as he said he would, then he simply doesn’t care what you think.

Telling him how you feel won’t change that because he has no interest in you. If you do that, you are the one who looks foolish in front of friends or co-workers. Or you might be fantasizing about showing him what he missed by parading a new date around in front of him.

Let It Go and Get a Guy Who is Into You

The reality check is, he won’t care, and your new guy won’t like being used to try to stir up jealousy in another man. You lose on both counts! The longer you obsess about him, the more you build up something that’s more than what it ever was. Keep Reading...

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This article was originally published at Nouveau Dating . Reprinted with permission from the author.