Let Him Leave — You Deserve A Man Who'd Do ANYTHING To Stay

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Our self-esteem and confidence is often too contingent on what other people think of us. That’s why rejection — especially when it’s someone we’ve been in a relationship with — hurts like a bitch. 

When we’re in happy relationships, we feel wanted. One of the perks of being tied down is the fact that there is someone who wants to tie you down.

That (among other things of course) is enough to keep to make us happy and keep us invested in the other person. 

Until that person decides they want to set us free. Then we crumble. 

It’s not something to be ashamed of and of course it’s something everyone and their mother has gone through. No matter how long you’ve been involved with someone, rejections and breakups always sting. 

And they sting to a point where we start to doubt our own self-worth and inflate theirs. 


We fall into pity parties and daydreams about how amazing the other person was. We over romanticize the relationship, keeping us in a place of heartache and hurt. We stop ourselves from moving on. 

It’s hard to listen to logic or reason when our self esteem has been reduced to a flaming bag of turd, but we have to try.

We have to make an effort to see the silver lining and the possibility of the future. 

If a person leaves you, it’s because they no longer have your best interests at heart. They’re no longer invested in your happiness and success. They no longer care about how you feel. 

So why would you fight that? Why would you want to hold on and cling to someone who will do nothing but hold you back? 

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Listen to logic and reason. Be grateful that person had enough sense to leave you to yourself, and do what’s best for you now. 

You’re free to take the reins and make your life as wonderful as you possible can.

Don’t let the sting of rejection keep you from forgetting that.