How To Not Look Cheap On A First Date


When it comes to first dates don't use coupons, never go Dutch, and leave your quarters at home.

When it comes to first dates, there are a few obvious no-no's. Don't pull out a wad of coupons. Never pay the tab with rolled quarters. And don't expect the girl to pay her own way. While you had a quick shower and shave, gargled a mouthful of Listerine, and put on a clean shirt, she has likely had her hair done, gel nails applied, bought a new outfit, and the shoes to match. So, unless your date shows up in a pair of sweats with a gnarly case of bed head and broken nails, going "Dutch" on a first date is forbidden.

So how can a man of limited means devise an inexpensive dating experience without appearing cheap? It is easier than you might think.

1. Be her Mr. Thoughtful

It doesn't take a whole lot of ingenuity or romantic sensibility to shower a woman with lobster and caviar. All you need is room on your credit card--and women know this. Women are much more impressed by a man's ability to create a unique experience focussed on her and the things that make her the happiest.

Find out as much as you can about her hobbies and interests before the big date and design a date around one of those. If she loves baseball, take her to a game. Rather than fork over big bucks for a Major League game, opt for tickets to see one of the team's Triple-A Minor League affiliates for a fraction of the price. If she's a bibliophile, you can take her to a book signing or a charming old book shop. Not only will you devise a one-of-a-kind dating experience without breaking the bank, but you will likely dazzle her with your thoughtful side.

2. Be her Mr. Attentive

The whole point of a first date is to get to know one another better--and women love a man who listens. If you want to impress the girl seated across from you, ask her questions about herself, listen attentively to her response, and show her that you are genuinely interested in her as a person. This will win you huge points--and being attentive doesn't cost you a cent.

3. Be her Mr. Lunch or Mr. Brunch

Dinner is the most expensive meal of the day. Factor in the wine, appetizer, and dessert, and you can no longer afford this month's car payment. Plus, the evening meal is fraught with pressure.

Opt, instead, for the casual comfort of the breakfast, brunch, or lunch--three much more budget-friendly dining choices. If you really enjoy one another's company, these "early in the day" options allow you to spend more time together going for a walk, visiting the farmer's market, or watching the buskers in the park. And, no matter how good that order of waffles and Canadian bacon tastes, refrain from requesting a doggie bag on the first date.

4. Be her Mr. Resourceful

Online coupon sites offer great deals on tickets to special events, classes, tours, and top-notch restaurants. Check out what social coupon sites like Living Social or Groupon have available in your area and you may just find the perfect option for your upcoming first date. Just remember to choose an option that will allow you to use a discount without your date being aware of this fact.

5. Be her Mr. Prepared

A great way to date without breaking the budget is to budget for dates in the first place. If possible, maintain a personal budget for dating by including an allotment for dating within your entertainment budget. Even if you hit a slump and the money remains untouched by the time the 31st rolls around, save it to add to the next month's total. This will prepare you for those months when you have eager women falling at your feet. Note that it is also good to maintain an optimistic outlook when navigating the dating scene.

6. Be her Mr. Stylish

While you don't exactly need to rent a tux, it is important that you look like you spent some time on your appearance. If you can't afford some new threads, raid one of your well-dressed friend's closets. Tap into your inner metrosexual--he's in there somewhere-- and tend to those grungy finger nails and calloused man hands. You only have one chance to make a first impression, so make sure it's a good one.

So put down that hammer and step away from that helpless ceramic pig. Dating can be a complicated--and costly--thing, but with a little creativity and care, you can plan an awesome first date that won't cripple your finances or send the girl of your dreams running in the other direction.

What was the most bizarre first date that you have ever experienced? What was the best?