On the Rocks? Reasons to Consider Couple's Counseling

Love, Heartbreak

Many couples are reluctant to go to therapy, but admitting there is a problem is the first step.

Many couples are reluctant to go to therapy, but admitting there is a problem is the first step to accepting and overcoming that problem. Couple's therapy can be beneficial, whether your relationship is on the rocks or just beginning to experience some tough times. Here are five reasons why you should consider going to couple's therapy:

It Encourages Communication
One of the most common marital problems is a lack of healthy communication. This problem may manifest in arguments and misunderstandings. Often one partner will hide resentment while the other is unaware of or disregards their feelings. Couple's therapy can aid you in overcoming this obstacle by providing you and your partner with a safe place where your therapist can help you learn how to properly convey your feelings to each other.

Therapy Can Help You Discuss Your Finances
Constant disagreements over finances is one of the most common symptoms of marital discord. You or your partner may spend too much or hold the purse strings too tightly. If you have trouble making a joint decision about money matters, couple's therapy can help put your issues into perspective. With the help of a therapist, you will be able to negotiate an agreement on finances to solve your fiscal woes. Therapy is also hugely beneficial in helping parents work in tandem to deal with the demands that children can place on their finances.

Other People are Involved
While most relationships are comprised of two parties, there will always be other people involved. Children, parents and even friends are part of your interpersonal network--any problems or issues in your relationship will also have an effect, however indirectly, on them. Conflicts, unclear communication and other problematic behaviors with your partner also strain your relationships with others. Seeing a couple therapist can help alleviate the stress and help you get your life back on track.

For Mediation
Although you might assume that therapy has the end goal of preserving your relationship, your partnership may have run its course. In the case of an emotionally charged divorce, a therapist is very useful in bridging the gap between you and your partner. No matter how brittle your relationship, a couple's therapist can assist you in reaching a mutually beneficial agreement that will make it possible for you to negotiate your settlement peacefully with a professional mediator.

Break the Negative Feedback Cycle
Constant arguing is often a symptom of resentment and negativity. Over time, many couples slip into the habit of communicating with sarcasm, anger and antagonism. Therapy helps to address these issues through identifying problematic behaviors and reformulating the focus of the conversation. While you may notice on your own that your attitude towards your partner is destructive, a therapist will give you the tools you need to rewire your interactions.

Whether you are in need of a neutral third party to preserve the peace or looking for help in untangling your financial woes, couple's therapy offers a safe and effective way to resolve your relationship problems.

Informational Credit to J. Scott Gunn, P.A., Attorneys At Law