First Date Do’s and Don’ts


Its is always good to know what you need to do and what you must avoid on your first date.

When you meet someone for the first time what do you say? How do you act? What do you ask?


Tell your date about yourself little by little, it’s better to be a little mysterious than to look desperate. It is important to share with your date who you are and what your goals and plans are in life. Refrain from talking about sex, past dates or relationships, finances, family issues, or life crisis. Religion and politics are very risky, but sometimes okay conversations. Just be honest and talk about positive things. Add humor to the conversation and laugh at your date’s jokes. Tell your date a little about your career, but not too much. Ask them about their career. What are their plans and goals in life? Good conversation topics include; your typical day, favorite music, favorite TV shows, favorite movies, favorite books, hobbies, current events, humorous genius ideas, embarrassing moments, humorous events in your life, recent and future vacations, social groups, and past experiences.


Ask your date questions to see what you have in common. Find out if you share future goals in life. Ask questions to find out if your date is someone that you could see yourself in a relationship with. Try not to ask questions that can be answered with a single word. Remember you don’t want it to sound like an interview, so throw in small talk and fun questions too.


  • Stay positive.
  • Be prepared.
  • Be respectful.
  • Be yourself.
  • Relax.
  • Limit your alcohol.
  • Stay in public places for safety.


  • Be late, and if you are be sure you call.
  • Wait if your date is later than 15 minutes, unless they have called.
  • Be on your phone, take calls, sending texts, or checking emails or social media messages.
  • Pretend to be someone you are not.
  • Bring a script.
  • Eat things that may make you sick or give you bad breath.
  • Become clingy.
  • Confess your love.
  • Bring someone else along.
  • Be fidgety.
  • Give out too much personal information right away.
  • Show insecurities.
  • Compare your date to past relationships.

Dating is often ruined by cockiness, one sidedness, or because they become too personal too fast. So remember to be considerate, and when choosing a topic to talk about or a question to ask, think how would you feel if you were asked certain question? Do you want to hear about your date’s exes or financial issues? Maybe you do like hearing about their past, but does it turn you away in fear that they aren’t financially or emotionally stable.

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Out of all of the things that you should and shouldn’t do, the most important is to stay positive and be truthful. It’s hard to know exactly what to say to how to act around someone you don’t know very well. Some people may have certain beliefs regarding religion or politics and may only want someone who feels the same way as them. Others may find that these topics are better left alone. Just remember that you are not at an interview. You are on a date trying to determine if you are right for each other. If you’re not compatible just try again. Don’t give up.