Why Black Men Date Out of Their Race, the Solution!


Sometimes you have to go back to your roots to solve today's problem relationships.

Continued from Part 1: Why African American Men Date Out of their Race: A Mathematical Breakdown

The Bible is really a scientific manuscript for keeping your vibrations high. In other words, it is equivalent to a living mathematical equation without anyone having to physically do the math problem. It appears clear that God already knew many of us would not want to calculate the equations necessary for successful relationships, so he embedded the formulas for success in stories and parables in the Bible, so we only have to follow the steps.

How easy is that? Maybe not so easy.

The problem many African-American women have had to face, with their increased success in education and the workforce, is that they are often raising their families as single mothers. A disproportionate number of African-American men are mentally and physically unavailable due to high incarceration rates, high unemployment, addiction to drugs and alcohol, and a lack of education. It’s a system certainly designed with the same intent and formula that the serpent used to divide Adam and Eve from the divine creator, to get the exact same results: pushing the black woman further away from the black man, and the creator, in ways she may not even realize. Nothing has changed; Satan’s game is still the same.

For example, when a black woman receives assistance from the Section 8 housing program, she is not legally allowed to have her man or the father of her children live with her. So if the father of her children is living with her, she has to conceal it from the government and deceive her children, or lose her benefits. Satan already understands the underlying negative energy created, and his plan works perfectly. It is he who created the manipulations--the high employment and the constant supply of drugs and alcohol, while at the same time miseducating the public. In this one instance, the woman lives a double negative. First, she relies on the government as her savior and deceives the very entity she relies on for support. Second, she now effeminates the father of her children. She unknowingly steals the father’s masculine virility, which is the problem and the exact opposite of the solution needed for the couple to become successful, mentally and spiritually. Unless the error is recognized and corrected, the same failed mistakes will only repeat themselves. Satan already knew this would be the case. There are no free lunches. (Why The Concept of Free Does not Exist in a Successful Relationship)

God gave women and men specific instructions on how to overcome these pitfalls, and he also gave consequences if we failed to obey. The solution to solving the problem of why black men date out of their race lies in God’s word. In order to solve the problem, the black woman has to go back to her feminine roots to win her black man back. She must also use this same formula to help regain his consciousness to become successful. He is nothing without her support (Genesis 3:16).

The woman was deceived by Satan from the beginning and is being deceived now through false idols, which include, but are not limited to, money or fiat currency, luxury cars, homes, jewelry and job security. She loves the material possessions of the world more than God who blessed her with these very gifts. (1 John 2:15-16).

How would the black woman define her role in the community and family if these material possessions were not available? In order to receive God’s blessings, she has to return to God’s word and follow the instructions, or she will forever continue to receive the curses instead of the blessings of companionship. This advice goes vice versa.

The problem is the black woman has failed to remember her true feminine nature, through her greatly increased independence and responsibilities to support her family. This, by design, goes against the success of the family structure; her masculinity infringes on her man. When a woman becomes too masculine, she in fact consumes a man’s masculine virility, making him effeminate and ineffective, according to John Baines’ book “The Science of Love.” As a result, that man becomes more like a woman, and her strengths become his weaknesses. Ladies, being more feminine is the key to building up your attraction and finding and keeping the Man of Your Dreams (MOYD). God’s word says a woman should be a helpmate and bear children, but today, women desire to be bosses, CEOs and managers.

In the Good News Translation Holy Bible with the Deuterocanonicals/Apocrypha, the Book of Sirach or Ecclesiasticus states, “When a man is supported by a wife, there is sure to be anger, arrogance and humiliation.” To be feminine and supportive of the MOYD is not weakness, but strength and obedience to God’s word.

African-American women have been unknowingly propelled ahead of their counterparts in the fields of education, employment, finances, etc., further breaking down the family structure. Satan hates God’s word and knows it better than we do. He plots against it day and night, looking to kill and destroy relationships, especially of those who love God. He provides opportunities to those he chooses and who subsequently accept his oath through his world system, the same system he offered to give Jesus if he would only kneel and worship him (Matthew 4:1-11). Satan now tempts and pimps women through material possessions and pride, just as he did Eve in the Garden of Eden (Genesis 3:1-6). Consequently, the African-American woman, labeled America’s No. 1 consumer, steals from the man she desires through her own personal desires for material possessions. When she is dating or married to a strong man, this will create a conflict between the positive and negative poles of masculine and feminine energy. In order for men and women to reach true love, a man must remain fully masculine and a woman must remain fully feminine. Many black women have unfortunately, due to the challenges they face in society and their material desires, have become too masculine, and only through following God’s word will they fully recover their lost blessings and lift the curses off of themselves, the black man and the children.

Black women must remember that although they are propelled forward in society, often without the black man, they should adopt the motto of the U.S. Armed Services: “Leave no man behind.”

So what does it mean in our modern-day society to leave no man behind? Watch the BBC video, “Planet Earth: Emperor Penguins” to see what God intended for men and women without man’s modern influence. Sometimes to understand our mistakes, we have to go back to the basics.

My summary of the BBC video “Planet Earth: Emperor Penguins” Humans have totally forgotten how to come together as one to support each other as a family. The male emperor penguins who banded together were amazing and by sticking together, created a more successful chance of surviving the cold winter, as opposed to the lone polar bear, working by himself (Ecclesiastes 4:9-12). The polar bear starved to death unnecessarily when food was so close. But the group of penguins, by working together as one, survived what would have otherwise been unbearable temperatures in the Arctic winter. In this relational role, it was the male penguin’s job to keep the eggs warm and protected, while it was the female penguin’s role to travel hundreds of miles to the ocean to get food. If the female penguins would not have returned, all would have been lost, males and babies, and what a tragedy it would have been. But thankfully, our hearts were not broken in tragedy, but celebrated and rejoiced in the return of the female penguins. What a beautiful sight it was to see--the trail of female penguins coming over the horizon with food for their mates, who had not eaten in four months. The male and female penguins gladly accepted the respective roles that were bestowed upon them. Isn’t that what’s needed in the black community today?

In our modern era, women need men to have children, but many feel it is perfectly okay to raise a child as a single parent (Understanding The Abusive Behavior Of Despicable Moms). This behavior is not the will of God and goes against nature. Our society is very sick, and once again Satan strikes. We are failing our families and failing our children, because both men and women fail to accept their respective roles and responsibilities. Most importantly, we have failed to support and love one another, thus failing to follow and obey God’s word. It is no different from losing a finger, toe, arm or leg. Our strength is in togetherness and our weakness is in separation (Galatians 5: 14). Quite simply, it is in our failure to follow God’s word.

This article was originally published at How To Get The Man of Your Dreams . Reprinted with permission from the author.