Never put anyone else's mind above your own: The Buddha. Paid for advice can cost you more than cash
a meditation CD called "Releasing A Person" and a much more intensive and expensive "Ultimate Super Release Kit" to help you with that. Overall I totally agree that staying "hung up" on the past prevents the present and future from entering your life. In the initial stages of a break-up this is a very useful CD to use for a decent amount of time. Release and replace are key takeaways from Alice's work which I fundamentally approve of. Where I am not so in alignment is that Alice's method is adamant that attachment to a past partner can delay one's "soul mate" from showing up so one must release as fast as possible. In my opinion a divorce is like a death and each person's recovery is different. However, proper grieving is healthy as unhealed loss can come back to haunt a person later on.
One of Alice's sayings which she tweeted recently was: When you stop chasing the wrong thing, you give the right things a chance to catch up with you." In simple situations this is true. Remember the guy or girl in High School who only had eyes for a particular person and could not see anyone else and ending up losing out on a better person who liked them back? That is what Alice is teaching and that's a good thing. However, when someone feels the need to force themselves to "get over it" it may, for some, create resistance. And what you resist can persist. Suppression of emotions may lead to keeping them alive and fresh rather than allowing them to come up to be dealt with or healed. For many people, there are times when it's not so much release and replace emotions but giving them permission to rise up and out of you. The later requires feeling them fully and acknowledging how potent they are if not recognized and dealt with properly.
Or a better example: A friend of mine had a real sweet tooth in college and got a job at a specialty chocolate shop. For the first three months she indulged her love of chocolate. But she ended up having so much of it that she got sick of it and eventually the aroma of the finest chocolate delicacies could not tempt her. Many time sentiments towards people whom we hold great affection for goes away in much the same manner. While I agree generally with much of Alice's advice I believe that: (1) chasing the wrong thing is only wrong if you are actually physically pursuing it like a fool and qualify for a diagnosis of OCD from a shrink, (2) the best way to get over someone is to meet someone else, so by that logic, date alot of different people so you don't focus on any one person until it's appropriate, and (3) How many times have you seen someone you know, even yourself, indulge in liking someone that was unrequited but it didn't block or prevent you from finding another person who felt the same way towards you? And the instant you found a mutual connection the long held crush was gone instantly? Why? Because you stayed engaged with life and you really only crushed on the other person because it was fun and you didn't take it seriously. In fact, the thought of them was just a tactic to occupy your mind until the real thing came along and you knew it.
Alice is a master teacher of the release and replace method. So to replace what you have given up the attachment to she sells her other CD "Manifesting Love". In all honesty, you are much better off buying a recoding from one of Kathryn Alice's coaches named Lisa Caroselli. Caroselli's meditation Soulmate Love Now: Feel It Before You See It! is sold on her website for about the same price and is a spoken guide you to connect with the feeling of being with your soul mate as if you were together now. It's the principles of the present positive and embodiment, which are key thought training tools in getting your subconscious mind to align with your conscious wishes. So, as I said before, if I understood Alice correctly about work using the Law of Attraction in her method, then the hypnosis script in her "Manifesting Love" CD doesn't jive with its future oriented language of waiting for someone to enter one's life. The language of "Manifesting Love", seems to be the right choice of words if you want to keep reinforcing your identity as a single person waiting for a soul mate. And anyone will tell you, even possibly Alice herself, how much your conscious and subconscious mind will work to keep an identity going.
The following Amazon review dated December 9, 2012 on Alice’s newest Kindle book Finding Forever Love: 7 Steps to Attract The One (Love Attraction Series) read as follows: I've was single for over three years when I discovered this work. I learned so much from Kathryn, especially how to let go and stop being so desperate. I said a prayer and gave my worries about finding "the one" to God.
I have now met someone very, very special. As a matter of fact, it happened the week after I did the process outlined in Finding Forever Love. My girlfriend and I were at a restaurant having a drink when a male friend of hers from elementary school recognized her . He happened to be with his best friend, and the next thing you know his best friend and I were talking and laughing, non-stop! And well, we've been inseparable ever since... and you know what? He is almost to the "T" exactly as I described him in the exercise you do in this book and as I envisioned when I did the "soul call."
I'm completely blown away! I haven't been this happy in years. I am in total bliss. He is so handsome and kind and complimentary