Best Friends: Why Gay Men & Straight Women Have Strong Bonds

friends: male and female

A new study says without hidden mating agendas this combination holds a deep level of honesty.

With the types of gay male/straight female friendships we're discussing, however, this tension is eliminated. Clemons says, "Because there is no sexual craving, we tend to come at each other from a more authentic space. If sexual desire gets taken out of the equation, at least in my opinion, the conversations become more real and then the real sexual desire can come to the surface in a more organic way."

I always hated how much pressure I felt from many of the males acquaintances I knew. But because there was zero sexual tension, my best friend and I were able to hang out, have sleepovers, have intimate talks and play video games for hours without ever feeling anything besides friendship.

Clemons notes — as do I — that "not all female and gay male relationships can be categorized into a fairy tale friendship," of course. There is no magic formula that makes two people automatically be great friends simply because of their sexualities.

However, there is something to be said about the strength that can come from these circumstantial factors, as well as what they indicate about other types of friendships. Perhaps we could all benefit from removing the competitiveness in our female-to-female and male-to-male friendships, as well as lessen any sexual expectations we may have, which could help mirror the beneficial elements of gay male/straight female friendships.

What do you think? Do you think there's a deeper level of honesty with your gay best friend?