When Is It OK To Break Up With Somebody Via Technology?

Breaking Up Through Technology

The dos and don'ts of dumping him in the digital age.

If you're planning on doing a text or email breakup with someone, try to be sensitive about it. Type out your words, be gentle and don’t use emoticons or emojis (seriously). Just be as concise and firm as you would be in person. This will hopefully ensure the fallout from ending things via technology will be minimal.

That said, there are certain lines that you shouldn’t cross when it comes to personal relationships. For one thing, no one (and I do mean no one except those who enjoy open schadenfreude) wants to see you’ve broken up with somebody on Facebook. It seems childish and a bit like exhibitionism: "Hey, look at us, we’re not together anymore. Like this post if you think that’s awesome." It just doesn’t quite fit into the whole "maturity" thing, right? Doing it via Twitter or any other public arena is just cruel, so avoid doing that at all costs. It’s doubtful that you’ll receive anything besides furrowed brows from people if you do it.

While I don’t think breaking up via technology is typically a good idea, it can be necessary. Example: If you're dating someone whom you don't feel safe around and want to end things with, over the phone, via text or through email are all perfectly acceptable ways of expressing that. Ending things in any way possible, in fact, is acceptable because the most important thing to do in a caution-requiring situation is to be better safe than sorry.

Similarly, if you’re in a long-distance relationship, breaking up via technology makes a little more sense. In the event that this is your situation and you desire an end, try to do it through Skype or on the phone; being able to hear one another will facilitate a much cleaner, more respectful split.

In general, having serious talks through technology rather than face-to-face can do more harm than good. Yes, it allows us to avoid the inevitable awkwardness of ending things, but it also takes away the communication factor and doesn’t feel quite as respectful. So avoid having something in common with John Mayer: try to breakup in person.

Tell Us: Have you ever been dumped via technology? Would you do it?