Get Hitched with Hussey: Get the Guy Who Honors You (Part 4)


British dating coach Matthew Hussey is a real life Hitch who emphasizes to women to demand respect.

So much can happen in a day or just 6 weeks. Just before her birthday Athena only had eyes for Calvin, who had eyes for every other woman except her. She would listen to songs like "Why Not Me?", "You Belong With Me", "We Belong", "Why Can't This Be Love", which put herself in such misery. Now she has radically changed her tune. Instead, Athena has found Dr. Stellios and together they listen to more uplifting songs like "Finally Found You", "You Look Beautiful in White", "Memories of This", "Its So Easy Loving You", "As Long As I Can Be With You", "You and I", and of course "From This Moment" by Shania Twain. As for Calvin the cad, he could create a playlist of melodies that include "Working my way back to you Babe", "Love is a Hurricane", "Back to You", "This Time" "Give Me One More Chance", "In These Arms", "I'll Be the One", or "Turn Back Time" on every radio station in North America but all his attempts would fall on deaf ears.

When Athena was available Calvin wanted her around to gratify his selfish ego even if it meant hurting her. Once Athena realized she was a High Value Woman and found Dr. Stellios, who was worth of her, Calvin realized too late how much of a catch that Athena was. How did the tables turn so fast? Athena followed the "Get the Guy" dating system from British dating Matthew Hussey. The concept of the High Value Woman was a key lesson and learning tool to fast tracking Athena's experience of dating. Eventually it lead her to the right person, Dr. Stellios. After watching one of the modules online from "The Man Myth" seminar, Athena decided to journal a letter to the type of person she was looking for. What kind of man deserves to join the life of a high value woman? The concept is a key in the "Get the Guy" system because confidence and and healthy self-esteem are irresistible factors in attracting an ideal partner. After Athena immersed herself in the concepts and principles that Hussey teaches she wrote the following letter to her "future soulmate" just before meeting the man of her dreams. This is not an exercise in the "Get the Guy" system but Athena's way of reminding herself that she was demanding the kind of respect that Matthew Hussey teaches women to stand for in their lives.

As background information before reading Athena's letter to her Soulmate it is important to know that Hugh Jackman has been her favorite actor ever since she saw him in the film Swordfish. It was a movie about a father who would do anything to be with his daughter and regain custody so she would be safe. The fact that Jackman is apparently 1/8th Greek, according to Athena, also endeared the actor to her. For years Athena has gushed with admiration at how Jackman has such a genuine display of respect, love and commitment to his wife Deb when interviewed about her. So in that respect the Australian actor has a fan for life in Athena. His marriage is the kind she really would love in her own life.

Since Jackman has a classically handsome face Athena sometimes calls him Adonis. Based on her fondness for Jackman, Athena called her future love at the time she wrote the second letter, the man who would be her real-life Adonis. Athena's soon-to-be fiance Dr. Stellios is also an Adonis in her eyes. He doesn't look like Jackman, rather, he actually resembles the movie character of the same name in the film 300. The Greek Gods really have a great sense of humor.

Dear Soulmate,

I have let go fully of Ronan. He does not deserve me. The space in my heart, mind, and soul is now 100% clear just for you and you alone. Unless and until you are here, no one else will win my heart and love. I reserve my special love that I have completely, just for you. I only want you soulmate. I choose only you and only you will have my full dedication and devotion Once we meet I will pledge myself utterly to just you. Only think of me as High Value Woman. Only you are worthy of love because you respect me, cherish me, adore me and only me like no one else. You love me with all your heart. I only have eyes for you and you only have eyes for me. I am your forever beloved and you are mine. Our romance is an ongoing mad love affair for life. My life and love are all yours. I am your prize and no other ... just as you are to me. I love how you love me the way my favorite actor proudly shows his love for his wife. I know you are the one, the right one, and our souls have always belonged together. When I met you, I was amazed that you were everything and more that I ever wished for. I am so happy that we are one another's dream come true. Since you are worthy of me and I of you, we have earned the right and privilege to hold our hearts in our hands the rest of our lives and beyond. You possess me, you have me, you have claimed me, and I am blissfully joyful that I am yours. Nothing compares to you because nothing to you compares to me. Our love is blessed and fulfills a beautiful destiny. I am so thankful that you finally found me because you I know you feel the same. Truly ours is a kind of love that is "till death do us part" but will survive beyond. Our love is a bond that is unbreakable. You are the other side of my soul and vice versa. Athena

So remember, the best thing that ever happened to Athena began as something far from the best thing. It started with being in the friends zone. She was so upset that it spurred her into action with some prompting from Mercedes and I. Athena plunged head first in working the "Get the Guy" dating system that she went from being turned away by a cad into being chosen by somebody better. Whenever someone turns you down they are actually doing you a favor as much as it feels like the total opposite in the moment. The good thing is, your love life is in your hands. Give your experience of dating a boost. Isn't real love of the best medicine to receive after being friends zoned and emotionally baited by someone who could not see how beautiful Athena was? How could it not? Calvin is now passé and the best thing Athena never had. She just really dodged a bullet.

Mercedes and I can only hope that Calvin is at home kicking himself. He may have been the typical tall, dark, and deadly handsome man back when Athena was having her temporary insanity crush on him but Dr. Stellios is her true hero. Calvin can sing the blues wanting to be her hero now but instead is out of luck, alas time waits for no one. The key thing to learn from Athena's story are the following: surround yourself with people who support you 100% to achieve your dreams as quickly as possible, do the work with full intensity and seriousness as if your life depends on it, and take on Matthew Hussey's three-month challenge. Your love life should have that sense of urgency because like another song sings, the price is too high not to love. Oh La La!

Final suggestion: Matthew Hussey's "Get the Guy" system wasn't the only method that Athena followed. She also benefited from reading the book "Love Will Find You" by Kathryn Alice (this is where she got the idea to do the letter writing in her journal to release Ronan and welcome in a true love), and "Let Love In" by clinical hypnotherapist Debi Berndt, which addresses shifting beliefs that support healthy relationship goals. Athena found both books to be perfect complements to her mindset as she implemented Matthew's action and results oriented program in her own life. Giving all three love tools a try led Athena to the love of her life in no time.