Would you date someone who comes from a different background than you?
I'm obsessed with Michelle Obama's pink Tracy Reese dress from last night. That she chose such a daringly feminine color, that it's by Tracy Reese — a relatively new and African-American designer, those bare arms...
But that's not what this post is about. I swear. What I loved about Michelle Obama's DNC address was her vulnerability and her realness in front of such a huge national audience: For one, she readily admitted that she wasn't too down with Barack running for president at first because of the time constraints it would put on their family.
"I loved the life we had built for our girls…I deeply loved the man I had built that life with…and I didn't want that to change if he became President. I loved Barack just the way he was," said the First Lady.
It was when Barack first started telling her about his family that she realized she had "found a kindred spirit, someone whose values and upbringing were so much like mine." She continued: "You see, Barack and I were both raised by families who didn't have much in the way of money or material possessions but who had given us something far more valuable — their unconditional love, their unflinching sacrifice, and the chance to go places they had never imagined for themselves."
This connection based on similar, challenging upbringings made us think: Could you have this deep a bond with someone if your backgrounds were completely different? So we posed a Facebook question to our readers: Would you date someone of a different background than you? What pros and cons are there? The results:
1. "I have dated many that had less than I did and a few that had more... I feel it's about appreciating each other's differences as well as similarities that really matter." - Bonnie Gayle
2. "I don't think it should matter as long as there's a mutual respect and understanding between couples. It's easy when you come from the same background as your mate." - Edgar Sanchez
3. "background doesn't matter completely. I'm with someone who has a lot less than I do and we've been working out just fine. It's about appreciation and commitment, love and tenderness." - Govi Moore
4. "I think having different backgrounds can balance out the relationship. I've dated all type of men and the background really does make a difference, not just money wise but in how relationship are handled and goals" - Chante Henderson
5. "A man needs to feel he can protect and provide for a family or he feels less of a man. A woman needs to feel secure and safe and cherished by the man. Usually, respect and trust are the foundation." - Sheryl Woodhouse
Would you date someone of a different background than you? Or, have you and a partner bonded because of shared backgrounds?
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