One Person Doesn't Really "Complete You" Or Your Marriage

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Love, Self

After her husband's cancer diagnosis, one writer reflects on the importance of her longtime friends.

We shared a lot of laughs and many a tear. My dear girlfriends comforted me in the loss of my mother. The guys helped each other with home-repairs. When sickness was in one of our homes, another would bring a roast for dinner.

We are all empty-nesters now, and it is still difficult to arrange our schedules to visit together. Many of our kids live out-of-town, so when we take to the road, it's to visit them. But my husband's situation, and losing Jack, has really spurred us to make a point to see our friends. This past weekend, we were able to merge together in a nearby city with Dave and Toni, and Terry and Renee. We had not seen them in three years. Over the course of two days, we ate at three restaurants and reminisced favored memories. We all vowed not to let a great amount of time to pass before our next gathering.

Two weeks after we saw Jack, we attended his funeral. Yes, it was a time of mourning, but also a time of celebration. As the pictures on the overhead screen of Jack and Kathy's years together passed before all that was gathered on that day, Terry and I were reminded of the joy this couple brought into our lives, and into the lives of others. 12 Types Of Friends You Should've Broken Up With, Like, YESTERDAY

A Bible verse that characterized Jack and that was part of his memorial service is Matthew 5:16: "In the same way, let your light shine before others, that they may see your good deeds and glorify your Father in heaven."

We carry a bit of Jack's light in our hearts today. That's what friends do.

Read the first part of Luann's story here.