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Will an Ultimatum Make Him Decide to Marry You?


At some point the waiting becomes unbearable. You are in love, you’ve found that one you want to spend the rest of your life with, but he shows no sign of an impending proposal.

You’ve dropped every hint possible, left bridal magazines open in the bathroom, told your mutual friends you really want that ring, but it’s still not happening.

It hurts everyday. Are you not good enough to get a marriage proposal? Is he just waiting for someone better to come along? Is he a commitment phobic? How to get a man to marry you?
Desperation Leads to This Common (and fatal) Mistake

The waiting game drives desperation. And desperation leads to THREATS. When it comes to women who so badly want to be engaged to their boyfriend, ultimatums are a commonplace. The waiting game drives desperation (especially if she has been waiting for more than a year o can’t stand it anymore, so you decide it’s time to drop the “U bomb” – The Engagement ultimatum.
Why Giving an Ultimatum is Committing Relationship Suicide

It’s especially hard if you’ve spent more than 2 years with him and still no sign for a ring. You don’t want to scare him into marrying you; you want him to CRAVE marrying you – Out of love and not out of fear. But you still consider an ultimatum because you feel you have nothing to lose anymore. But WAIT.

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Save your breath because you only need two words to make him commit.
Are you REALLY thinking about their happiness?
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