Breaking up shouldn't be the end

Love, Self

We are each too valuable to be broken apart and depressed by the end of a relationship. Be strong.

This is the story of a young woman who met a man and fell in love. They were perfect for each other. In a month he confessed to her that he had never met anyone like her before and she made him feeling things he had never felt for a person before. Naturally, she felt the same way.

Sounds like a typical love story, no? Sure, except it didn’t exactly end that way.

She proceeds to tell me how 3 months later he breaks up with her out of the blue and she found herself heartbroken and pregnant. She became very ill during her pregnancy and unfortunately lost her baby. He stuck by her side throughout all of it, but as a “friend”.  After her miscarriage, she would continue wanting him in her life as more than a friend, even though he insists that he has moved on. She let her emotions and weakness get the best of her to the point where she tried to end her life. Thankfully she did not succeed.

If anyone else has ever been in a situation similar to hers, whether as grave or not, I have this to say (the exact words I said to her):

First and foremost, there is no man or situation in this world that is worth ending your life for. You are too precious a human being to be wasted away for any reason. Each and every one of us was put on this earth for a purpose and although that purpose isn't always known, there is nothing that is placed in our paths that we can't handle.

My suggestion to you is to forget about him. You need happiness in your life and even though you feel miserable without him, you are actually better off without him. If he truly knew how amazing you are, he'd still be with you. You can’t be friends with an ex. As much as someone can say that it is possible to be friends with an ex, you can't be. There will always be emotions floating around that will make it hard to be friends with that person, especially if they are moving on or have already moved on.

If he tells you that he’s moved on, then sad to say, he has already moved on. Men, believe it or not, mean what they say. They don’t usually have ulterior motives.  I honestly feel that he feels bad for what you have been through and what you are going through, but you need to show him that you are a strong woman and you don't need a man in your life to make you happy or keep you standing.

If your depression is dragging you down, then you should consider seeking help. As women, we have a disadvantage, emotion. We have the ability to love like no one else and we also have the unfortunate ability to break down like no one else. But we are also stronger than men. Men hide emotions because they don’t usually know how to deal with them, but don't read into what he says to you. You are much more valuable than you think you are and you don't need him to get by. You will be able to move on and live a happy and fulfilling life. And one day you will find the right guy that is going to love you for who you are despite all your flaws. In fact, he will love those flaws because they make you who you are. Be strong. Remember you have a purpose for being alive in this world and no one can take that away from you.