Romance Rut? 10 Ways To Get Your Marriage Back On Track

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From Woman's Day.

"Many people think that marriage is about marrying the right person," says Alisa Bowman, author of Project: Happily Ever After. "Although you do want to marry someone you are basically compatible with, marriage has a lot less to do with marrying the right person than it has to do with doing the right things with the person you married." These tips will rehab your romance.

1. Nurture Yourself. Narriage is about giving, but don't make the mistake of giving too much. "Learn how to prioritize and put boundaries around activities that keep you healthy and whole — activities like rest, relaxation, fitness and time with friends," says Bowman. Scheduling "me" time into your day is not selfish, it's a necessity.

2. Define The Problem. Bowman suggests that you take a moment to imagine a perfect day in your perfect relationship. What would this look like? How would you and your partner interact? Then create a plan of how you might get from point A (current reality) to point B (perfect day). Start breaking the issues into pieces and tackling them one at a time. Before you know it, there will only be a few bite-size problems left.

3. Make a Plan. If you find you and your spouse are starting to badger each other over the bottom line, it's time to have a penny-pinching powwow. "Couples need to make an active plan about how they will manage their money," says Jenny Anderson, coauthor of Spousonomics. "Whatever the decision, both people have to be part of the decision to do it and then figure out what needs to be done to keep the system humming."

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