He Didn't Cheat On Me—I Gave Him Permission...

Sex, Self

What possessed this girl to give her boyfriend a "night off"...???

My boyfriend David and I had been dating for a few years when, one night, we decided to spend the evening at home. We had a few drinks, watched some TV, then had this innocent conversation: 

"If you could have sex with anyone in the world, who would it be?" he asked me.

"You," I replied.

"Other than me."

"Russell Crowe."


"You didn't ask me who I wanted to have an interesting conversation with," I protested. "You asked me who I would want to do. I'd do Russell Crowe and in my fantasy he's really good at it."

"There's no way a guy THAT into himself is going to be good at sex."

"Good point."

Our conversation went on long into the night—but what if it weren't a fantasy? What if it were reality? What if, in the course of our relationship, we each wanted to do someone other than each other who wasn't Russell Crowe? Then what? lemondrop: What Your Sexual Fantasies Say About You

It was almost exactly the same conversation that is the crux of the new movie, "The Freebie," a Sundance hit directed by and starring Katie Aselton, along with her co-star Dax Shepard. Part of the mumblecore movement, the film opens today and is a talky, thinky, indie romantic comedy about a young married couple, bored with their sex life, who each agree to spend one night with someone else. lemondrop: Is The Best Sex Sex With Someone You Love?

"It's kind of like an itch you can't scratch any other way," admits Annie, the wife, who enters into the bargain—at least at first—a bit reluctantly.

In the case of me and David, we, too, wound up talking for hours about taking our fantasies out of the safety of our bedroom. Here's how it played out in real life when it finally happened. lemondrop: Why Guys Can't Forgive Us For Cheating

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Written by Carmen Rodriguez for lemondrop