Help!!! I feel intimately abandoned.......


   Right now, my husband and I have been together for almost 3 years in November.  June 6th was our one year wedding anniversary.  We went out and celebrated but no sparks.  It seems like when I am in the mood, he is always tired.  He is on medicine that makes him sleepy and may take his drive from him but I just get frustrated when he isn't up to it.  There are times when all I want to do is cry because of all the sadness that is caused by the lack of intimacy.  I understand about needing rest for work getting up early the next day but I would even make the time for my partner.  Affection and showing that you love someone in a physical way is also paramount in any relationship.  It feels like we are leading a barren life.  He works during the day, I work in the evenings so when during the week, we don't get evenings together because I come in late while he is in bed sleeping because he has to arise early for work.  I just wonder if I am even desirable to him anymore.  Or if he truly loves me.  I just have been having those questions racing through my head.  When we first met, things were going great.  We were intimate on numerous occasions and then when we moved in together and married, that is when it went downhill, the intimacy that is.  He is always wondering why I cannot sleep at night or so I think he does anyway, and how in the world do I tell him that he is not meeting my needs without offending him?  There is a fine line drawn and I just don't want to do anything to jeopardize what we have because we are not intimate enough.  Yes, it is important, and I do not want to live out the rest of our lives in a barren unhappy marriage that I dread every day because I know that when he says that we will have a good evening, the thought of intimacy is there but when it comes time to crawling into bed, the interest goes out the window for him leaving me feeling cold and alone and not feeling loved.  I just do not know what to do.  I love him like crazy, he is my soulmate no questions asked, we are just having this one problem that is all.  It has been over a week since we had been intimate and I am lucky if we even do it once a week.  It hurts not being intimate with my partner like I want to.  There are times when all I want to do is just rip his clothes off and throw him down even in public places because that urge is so hard to resist because I got all this energy and no where to go with it.  I do feel like crying because I feel alone and emotionally and intimately abandoned.  Is there any advice out there for women like me? 


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