Why does it have to be so hard?


Just to start off, the title of this post is not an invitation to make a "that's what she said" joke (I probably would, though, if I were reading that as a casual observer. I love a good "that's what she said" joke :P ). I just feel like I have to get this out, because it's been bugging me for a while. Why is it so hard to read social cues? Am I the only one who has this problem? Am I the only one with this crippling fear of rejection which renders my brain utterly ineffectual when it comes to reading signals?
I hope to God (or whatever higher power floats your boat) that I'm not.
If, as I suspect, I'm not, however, I'd like to take this opportunity to ask: why is bluntness uncool?
I feel like people think that being coy is the way to go, but in my experience things never go anywhere if coyness is involved (I'm not entirely sure that coyness is a word but that's just something I'll have to live with). I could be totally off base about this, but just humour me.
I really don't want this to take on a petulant tone but waaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaah (that's the sound of me burying my head in my hands and crying, just FYI). I just feel like this gigantic cloud of uncertainty completely engulfs me whenever a guy I like is around. Does he like me? Does he think I look fat today? Does my voice bug him? Is my hair not doing me any favours? Can I make him laugh? Does he think I'm obnoxious?
I don't know the answer to these questions (except the last one, because after this little diatribe I'm going to go with "yes"), hence my frustration.
Why can't we just be direct with the people we like?
"Hey, I like you. Wanna go for a drink?"
That's all I want, really. Take the guesswork out.
But there's that pesky fear of rejection again. What if it doesn't work out? What if (s)he says no? What if I end up looking like an idiot?
I guess there really is no winning here. Maybe we can only dive in head first and worry about it later.
There. I'm done. Carry on.