Smart Talk: Irresistable Men

Smart Talk: Irresistable Men

Abs, biceps and more. When Julie Andrews listed 7 Irresistable Traits in a Man, you came back with additions, criticisms and more. Here is some of your smart talk about men and attraction:

this is such BS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! after looking at jus a few of these comments i felt compelled to join this thing jus to post this reply! at 31 i'm by no means an old pro but i'm also not some newbie. in my late teens into early 20's i went through many phases of what i thought women wanted or liked and even to this day i have come to 1 conclusion as to the type of guy a woman wants......he needs to have rock hard abs(naturally never been to a gym) nicely built(again naturally) there are 2 different faces women seem to want 1 is very chiseled while the other is a softer more distingushed look(like that of richard greer) he needs to be rich first off so he can accomplish the rest of these things...he better be able to fix her car(that's if he don't buy her a brand new 1 of her choice) take care of everything around the house inside and out! take out the trash, be a hell of a good cook, clean the house, do the laundry, take care of the kids(if kids are involved) have dinner on the table with candles lit when she gets home from shopping(again he needs to be rich cause he would give her the cash or credit cards) be overly sensitive to her every whim and basically p**sy whipped around her and her friends but a tough guy in public to protect her, and in the evening have a bubble bath drawn with candles lit waiting for her(never expecting to join her cause that's unacceptable), massage her feet while she is taking her bath followed by a full body massage when she is done, NEVER ask her for sex but give it to her whenever she wants it.

I definitely agree with this article. A man that's clean cut, takes pride in his health by working out, wears fresh clean clothes (knows how to dress for different occassions), and wears a nice smelling cologne turns me on. Women are visual as well. We want a guy who doesn't look like he just woke up out of the bed and threw on clothes from the hamper. Also, just because a cologne smells good to a guy doesn't mean it's a turn on for a woman, so fellas take heed to your woman suggesting a certain cologne that's her favorite. You won't be sorry!

This list seems so superficial. I really thought it was going to be a list of character traits that make a man irresistible. I could care LESS if a man knows how to wink; in fact, I think my skin would crawl if my boyfriend winked at me.
To me, the things that make him irresistible are:
1) He's comfortable with himself
2) He's emotionally fluent i.e. he can discuss feelings without barfing
3) He's understanding
4) He's encouraging and doesn't put people down
5) I agree a sense of humor is wonderful
6) He has a conscience/sense of morality

Obviously this is all relative. This article by Ms. Andrews is a contradiction within itself. The subtitle "more than rock solid abs..." is put back in at #3. Takes care of himself is way more than going to the gym and I openly reject #3 statement "..If he keeps his body in relatively good shape this shows us he knows how to take care of himself. It also clues us in that he sets health as a priority.." Not sure how you can correlate taking care of his body and health is a priority. Health is my priority because I am a Type 2 diabetic and is undercontrol by eating correctly and taking my medication. I would say I am about 15 lbs overweight at 195 lbs at 5"11. Just because I have a spare tire, does not mean that health is not a a "priority". Whether I like it or not our American society is a shallow and narcissistic. Unfortuneately, I continue to find the ladies are shallow and narcissistic. Education, career oriented, and a great personality with dimples doesn't cut it any more.

~ He radiates calm.
~ He is affectionate.
~ He is also got style.
~ He takes care of himself very well and also that of me.
~ He likes a good laugh and I like giving him one ;) apart from great sex!
That's why he all so adorable and I am in love him even more.

Alot of women dont know what they want they'll say they hate drama and continue to go out with the guy that keeps kicking them out of the house and throwing their stuff on the lawn. My sister and her man break up almost every 3 weeks. Hes even gone as far as to hold her against the wall by her neck and they were back together a few weeks later this has been going on for 2 years now....the way i see it is those girls...the "Drama" girls that want the popular ambercrombe fitch catalog guy, arnt the kind of girls nice stable guys should be after anyway. Always remember that men and women cant all be labled in the same catagory so just because most women you meet want the macho popular guy (who really isnt worth a damn) doesnt mean there arnt girls out there that are different. Sometimes its hard to find but there are other good people out there who can recognize and appretiate a fellow good person when they see them.

This is why I don't really know what women want. I have a friend that looks like he just came out of an ambercrombe fitch catalog. The women throw themselves at him. I shake my head, because he doesn't have any education, is in a job that won't go anywhere, and he drinks like a fish (and has cheated on his girls many times) They say he is exciting all the way until they break up with him calling him a jerk(and other names)I on the other hand am not in the best of shape but am not an elephant either, I don't really have a style of dressing, but am educated and have a real career going, one that will eventually lead me to having the good life, but women say I am too stable and to predictable for them. I don't know how to think about women anymore. If women picking out guys to date were like going to the track and betting on horses, most women have no clue how to pick a horse that will win. They only look at what the horse looks like and the horses name, not it's track record. Women say they want a nice guy, but really what they want is a guy that is unstable, and unpredictable, but one that they think they can change into the calm, stable guy in the future.

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