A Lesbian's Response To Gay Pride: Shame On Them


Let's open with a disclaimer, so that when the gay "community" fires back at me with an indignant spank, they will recognize that I am family, and that my opinion does not come from the outside looking in. Not that they will be any more tolerant of my criticism because of it but, in the very least, they will know that I am on the same team and speak for many others like me who are sitting on the bench watching the parade go by.

I am a lesbian and the single mother of a teenage daughter. I am open about my sexuality to select friends, though would not, for one moment, hang my head if outed. I offer no apologies for protecting my anonymity at this stage in my life and I will come out entirely on my own terms. I have raised my daughter in a very liberal, civic and open minded home, and received nothing but her support when I came out to her. She has many gay, bi, and lesbian friends who all find refuge in our hearts and our home when needed and, as a straight teen, my daughter actively supports gay issues. For this I am proud. She is my most rewarding contribution towards helping to create a society we can all thrive in equally. This Just In: Nothing Can Turn You Gay

This weekend she asked me to attend Pride with her, which I promptly declined, though I gave her my permission to attend with her friends. She asked if the reason for my decision was that I was ashamed of being a lesbian—which I explained could not be further from the truth. I expressed my opinion, and she respected it.

I explained, "I don't feel as though Pride depicts an accurate or favorable image of gay individuals. For this reason, among plenty of others, I feel there are too many of us who are still hiding in lower, upper and middle class closets, afraid to come out of the dark due to fear of the reflection on the other side. The image I am referring to is that of the g-string strutting, lip-locking, crotch grabbing, ass slapping, sex toy yielding, sexually preoccupied exhibitionists notoriously parading around at Pride events. This is not the image I want to wave on a flag to get the public's attention, nor is it a way of earning the respect we are entitled to. Is America Ready For Gays To Be Equal?

Imagine if Martin Luther King had taken such liberties while marching for the rights of black America. Absurd, right? So why does the gay community make a spectacle out of us? Is it not an oxymoron to scream, "We are just like you!"—while drawing a line in the sand with such adversarial behavior? How is the prejudice public ever going to relate to the gay community when many of us who are actually gay can not do the same? Why does being gay have to be depicted with overtly sexualized themes and behavior? Let's add this to my disclaimer: "I am not sexually inhibited nor am I a conservative prude, but I do believe that there is a place and time for everything, and sexual exhibitionism does not belong in the streets, in our collective theme, message—or in our quest for equality." 9 Signs He's Gay

The gay community had an opportunity today to teach my daughter something, and here is what she was sent home with: free condoms and pictures of her with nearly naked men posing provocatively and thrusting their "pelvises" at the camera. She was notably impressed, vaguely amused and adequately armed for sex when the day was done. What I think my daughter and many others are seeing through the parade of Speedos and pasties is not pride, rather the gay community misrepresenting, demeaning and belittling itself as it marches backwards in the opposite direction of understanding. –Chided with Pride