Relationship Advice: When Mercury Goes Retrograde

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The stars predict romantic rockiness for all but one lucky love stage; here's how to cope.

It's complicated: For whatever this means to you, make sure to wait until this period is over to make up, break up or otherwise decide on a new direction in your relationship. If things have yet to be defined, hold off on the WUWU (What's Up With Us) talk. Never fear if things have taken a turn for the worst, at the end of the month the two of you could pick up just where things left off. Until then, it's better to just let things be and go with the flow. In addition, Mercury's reversal provides for a wonderful opportunity to correct past mistakes and should be a time where you work to correct problematic relationship habits. 

Taken: No matter if you've been dating for a few months or a few years, you may find yourself questioning your commitment to or interest in your sweetie, and communication snafus will be sure to cause arguments. Be patient. If things "get weird," blame it on Mercury and forget about it. While waiting for things to simmer down, revisit some of your old haunts and good memories as a couple, which will help keep things in perspective.

Engaged: Now is not the time to set a date or finalize any important plans, as they will probably end up having to be changed. If you do have to go forward signing the contract for that fabulous wedding singer, or placing a deposit on your nuptial venue, make sure to go over everything with a fine-toothed comb. This will save you both time and money in the long haul.

Married: Unlike other love stages, those who are married will find this Mercurial phase can actually strengthen a relationship. Because this period is characterized by a deepening in appreciation for the good old things, and since you already know each other and don't need to worry about making a bad impression, just sit back in silence and enjoy each other's company. Now is the perfect time to renew your vows or take a second honeymoon.

Starting Over: If you are in the middle of a divorce, take time to make sure the terms of your split are crystal clear. You don't want to bungle any important legal issues, and if you are not paying attention your divorce can take longer than expected to be finalized. Bitter about how things turned out? Now's the time to bury the proverbial hatchet and release deep resentments for good. It's also a good time to set about reorganizing your life without your partner. Take all reminders of your ex to a thrift shop or re-gift them to friends.