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Epiphany (I’m Leaving)

Epiphany (I’m Leaving)

I’ve found myself in several situations where I’ve wanted to throw in the towel and do what I know a man would do? However, I know that a society full of double standards wouldn’t allow it. I am not the type of person that must follow societal norms but I pride myself on being the type of individual that carries herself with respect and dignity, always following the moral beliefs that I hold true. I am not immune to cheating, lying, or anything else however I work very hard to abstain from them because of the hurtful consequences.

Growing up I never thought about the roles that men and women are suppose to play, but as I get older a world full of double standards become apparent to me. Now, at the age of 27, I am starting to question whether I can continue to live by these standards that appear to be commonly accepted even though I find them to be excruciatingly wrong. One example is infidelity. While we all know that infidelity is morally wrong, society is more open to a man’s cheating ways than a woman’s. Cheating is ok for men but women who firmly support and interact in cheating are viewed as whores, sluts, or bitches. I am seeing a common trend of men having a “wife” and a “lady” on the side. It makes no sense. While I may be wrong for applying men into a stereotypical cheating species, it seems like most relationships have the same problems even in these tough economical times when relationships should be growing stronger as men and women become each other’s backbone like never before.

The expectation that women will continue to play the historical housewife role while being the breadwinner of a relationship or an equally contributing partner is ludicrous. It is 2009. Most women work and many men still expect not to pitch in towards household duties. I mean damn, at least wash the dishes; do a load of laundry; something besides working and scratching your balls. I am not a feminist and I don’t believe that women are totally innocent because there are plenty out there that are a hot mess. We have all seen Maury where a woman gets on that stage and acts a fool when he says “You are not the father” and the heffa knew all along that she was sleeping with Mike, Shawn, and Will.

Yesterday, my aunt stated that someone asked her why she was single and she stated “cause bulls**t makes me itch.” Women of all age ranges are going through the same drama and issues with men so when does it stop? As an independent, hardworking, and strong woman, I would totally appreciate a man that could be faithful, loving, hardworking, and willing to help out around the house. Are there any single men out there like that????? Please let me know and put me in my place, if you know one or you are one.


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