The Museum of Sex


Lila here~ I spent the weekend in NYC with a great friend.  It began with the Museum of Sexat 233 Fifth Ave (at 27th St). 

The ground floor was all about animals and sexuality.  I learned so many fun and interesting (and some slightly disturbing) things, I wanted to share a few with you.  I’ll start with the disturbing thing; let’s just get that out of the way. First up, the banana slug:  this creature has a penis growing out the side of its head.  The good news is that the penis is nearly as long as its body.  The bad news is that sex is followed by “apaphallation” a.k.a. chewing off the penis by the partner.  It doesn’t regenerate, either, so I hope it was worth it, dude!

There were tons of examples of homosexuality and autoeroticism (that’s masturbation, but you knew that!) in animals.  That was pretty cool to me, especially the autoeroticism.  I’d always heard that animals only copulated for procreation purposes.  I think the Bible-thumpers even used that to imply that procreation is the only legitimate reason for having sex (because the animals would know, right?).  Some examples:  female elephants will use their trunks to stimulate other females in their herd, and there was a pair of penguins—both male—who kept trying to hatch out an egg-shaped rock.  The zookeepers finally found an abandoned egg and the lucky couple had a chick.  They stayed together as a couple for six years; then one of them moved on to a female.  The other is still single.  Dolphins, whales, giraffes… you name it, they’ve documented either masturbation or homosexuality… or both.  Turns out, girls aren’t the only ones who “just wanna have fun!”

The most interesting part (OK, except for the monkey with the turquoise balls and the red penis, but that was a passing fancy) for me, was the idea of monogamy in the animal kingdom.  Sociologists have long claimed that monogamy is a natural state for humans, and they cite animals like geese, swans, ducks, and the desert vole as examples of monogamous animals.  Turns out, they were wrong.  These animals do stay together, often for life, in a socially monogamous partnership. Sexually however, the instances of EPC (Extra Pair Coupling) was a staggering 95-97%.  They figured this out by doing DNA testing on the offspring and were shocked to find how many other partners were involved. 

It really got me thinking:  is our entire social structure around sex, relationships and monogamy flawed?  Given how many people I work with in my coaching practice who are unhappy in their relationships, I’d have to say YES.  I do believe there are some pioneers in the field working to shift the paradigm, and I believe that Tantra is an important part of the foundation of that new paradigm.  It’s not going to happen overnight, but personally, I’m willing to do my part in making it happen, and I know Pinkee is too.

I’ll tell you more about the museum next time, so stay tuned! *_~