The Secret To Arranging Marriages?

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Some Indian parents are trying a new approach, upgrading traditional matchmaking.

Sure, you may be comfortable posting your profile on one of the myriad dating sites that your friends are buzzing about. Now, let's spice up the equation. How about if your parents, let's say your mom, for instance, wanted to post your profile on a matrimonial Web site. Would that fly?

That's exactly the scenario that's playing out with many adults whose parents live in India while they live and work in America, reports this article posted by the Columbia School of Journalism. Matchmaking and arranging marriages, a tradition in India that dates back to the late 19th century, has been getting a technological upgrade and parents are taking their work online. 

For one 30-year-old man mentioned in the article, who works in Kansas City, Mo. while his parents reside in Mumbai, India, making sure he had a suitable match became a family affair. His parents posted his profile; his sister agreed to manage the flood of e-mails that started arriving from females interested in getting to know him. A few of the matrimony sites mentioned in the article where parents are known to post their children's profiles, sometimes without first asking their permission: shaadi.com, bharatmatrimony.com and jeevansathi.com.

Did it work for that 30-year-old guy? Well, no. He did exchange e-mails with some of the women who had responded to his profile (and had met his sister's approval). In time, though, communication trailed off. That's not to say it doesn't work for some. One 35-year-old professional man living in Nebraska was able to connect with a 32-year-old professional woman living in New Delhi through one of the matrimony sites. After meeting three times, once alone, the two announced their engagement