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On Lovers' Quarrels

On Lovers' Quarrels
Love, Heartbreak

Couples in longer relationships argue less.

The proverbial "old married couple" actually doesn't fight so much: couples bicker less over time, says a study of 1,500 long-term relationship couples in New Zealand.

Fights were more common for couples in three- to seven-year-long relationships than for those 21 years or more. That makes sense, of course: one would hope that if a couple kept arguing about the same topic for years and years, they'd eventually give up the fight -- or the relationship. This particular study doesn't say anything about the reported happiness levels of the couples, though, which I would like to see before drawing any conclusions. I've always wanted to know if my high school health class teacher was right about how it's not whether a couple fights or not, it's how a couple fights.


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