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Study Out To Prove That Evaluating Relationships Strengthens Them

Study Out To Prove That Evaluating Relationships Strengthens Them
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From The Telegram And Gazette By Pamela H. Sacks

When Lisa Carpenter learned about an opportunity to check on the health of her marriage, she was intrigued. But she wasn’t sure how her husband, George, would react.

“I just caught him at a time he would be receptive, and I ran with it before he changed his mind,” she said.

Mr. Carpenter recalled that he had no problem with the idea of participating in James Cordova’s research on marriage at Clark University in Worcester. “I didn’t really have concerns about doing it,” he said. “There’s not really anything wrong with our marriage, anyway. It’s a research study. Why not? I can reinforce to Lisa, ‘Hey, we’re doing pretty well.’ ”

Tango’s Take They never really seemed to describe what James Cordova is looking for with these check-ups. Maybe we missed it, but the goal appears to be to test the level of satisfaction of couples constantly reevaluating their relationships versus a control group that don’t reevaluate at any given intervals. This seems like a no-brainer. Socrates once said that ‘the unexamined life is not worth living.’ A corollary is that the examined relationship is worth keeping because it is constantly growing stronger. We wonder how many places will offer these State Of Your Union exams. It beats counseling and is probably more effective than taking quizzes in Cosmo.

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