What is Your LoveStage?


Here at YourTango, it's our job to know every nitty-gritty detail about love and relationships. That's why we teamed up with Yahoo!Personals and Carat USA to conduct an online survey unlike any done before, questioning 1,000 women to find out how their relationship status affects their behavior, their hopes, and even their credit card balances.

We wondered: Do breakups turn us into born-again gym bunnies? (Nope.) Do single girls climb the career ladder faster? (Maybe.) And is there a causal link between romantic bliss and shoe buying? (And how! It turns out there are reasons Jimmy Choos loomed large on Sex and the City.)

So read on to learn more about the LoveStage you're in...and what it reveals about your life.

LoveStage: Single and Not looking

Your top priority: Are you busy starting a business? Raising a kid? Writing a best seller? Whatever your focus, the majority of you said "obtaining knowledge," not finding Mr. Right, is your goal right now.

Your bottom line: Financially, you think long-term. Fiscally ambitious, you're also the thriftiest of the LoveStages in the here and now. In fact, you're decidedly anti-impulse buy, spending 30 percent less than any other group on clothing, shoes, or La Perla.

Fun fact: Hot wheels, not hot dates? Free Agents are more likely to invest in a new car in the next 12 months than any other LoveStage.

Celeb poster child: George Clooney

LoveStage: Single and Looking

Your top priority: Meeting new people, natch. You log four times as many hours on MySpace (and other social networking sites) as any other LoveStage. But you're a networker extraordinaire, and there to meet all types, not just eligible ones.

Your bottom line: Well, you never met an espadrille you didn't like. Connectors spend 17 percent more on shoes than any other LoveStage -- not to mention 23 percent more on clothing. We understand. Dating requires frequent costume changes.

Fun fact: Be your best friend? Connectors ranked their pals as a higher priority than romantic success or their appearance. You also beat out every other LoveStage when it comes to career satisfaction!

Celeb poster child: Jennifer Aniston

Some people in this LoveStage maybe dating but not exclusively, in which case:

Your top priority: Self-improvement. Seventy-three percent of you are trying to Google your way to enlightenment, going online for info on bettering yourself. And one in five is currently seeing a therapist, twice as many as any other LoveStage.

Your bottom line: Subject to change: 44 percent of you say you intend to look for a new job in the next year. Maybe that time off helps explain why you watch the most talk shows.

Fun fact: More pro-gym than any other LoveStage, 16 percent of you practice yoga or Pilates regularly. Overall, you tend to exercise more often than singletons or the committed, and 300 percent more than those going through a breakup! Paging Ben and Jerry.

Celeb poster child: Cameron Diaz

LoveStage: Taken (Dating someone exclusively)

Your top priority: Now that you're in a cozy twosome, most of you say you wish you had more time to socialize and exercise. (Yet nearly half of you say you "never think" about dieting.)

Your bottom line: It's budget reallocation time: In this stage of dating, you tend to spend 20 percent more than average on movies, dinners, concert tickets, and -- call it the Xbox effect -- 35 percent of you say you're also suddenly shelling out more on electronics.

Fun fact: Got your eye on a diamond? Twenty-three percent of you say you are expecting to get engaged within the next 12 months. Pre-congrats!

Celeb poster children: Maggie Gyllenhaal and Peter Sarsgaard

LoveStage: Engaged

Your top priority: Building your nest, of course. You're dropping 20 percent more than any other LoveStage on home products. We're with you. In our heart of hearts, we all want 1,000 threadcount sheets.

Your bottom line: Make that lines. Fifty-eight percent of engaged couples living together combine bank accounts. Yet, 62 percent of you choose to keep your plastic one-name only.

Fun fact: Back away from the Lifetime movie: You're the most likely of any LoveStage to say you're feeling more emotional now than ever before. You also use photo-sharing sites and go to the movies most often.

Celeb poster children: Claire Danes and Hugh Dancy

LoveStage: Married

Your top priority: You're the happiest with your work/life balance now. Less than 12 percent of you say you plan to change jobs anytime soon. But one in 10 of you do plan to have a baby in the next 12 months.

Your bottom line: Going toward good eats. Today, married women spend more on dining out than any other LoveStage. Take that, Betty Crocker.

Fun fact: Have husband, will travel. Seventy percent of you plan to jet off into the sunset on vacation soon. Isn't it nice to have a built-in someone to rub sunscreen on your back?

Celeb poster children: Julianne Moore and Bart Freundlich

LoveStage: Between relationships (due to a breakup, separation, or divorce)

Your top priority: Connecting with friends. Fire up your Friendster! Women in transition are two to three times more likely than others to network online. You're also most likely of all the LoveStages to be on Instant Messenger 24/7. Good 4 u!

Your bottom line: How's that lip-gloss collection? You're investing in yourself to feel good again, and most likely of all the LoveStages to engage in beauty-product binges.

Fun fact: Can an espresso maker cure a broken heart? It's not scientifically proven, but investing in new sheets and dishes is a good start: One in three of you said you're in the market for new housewares now.

Celeb poster child: Reese Witherspoon

How we got our data

Tango teamed up with Yahoo!Personals and Carat USA to poll 1,000 women in different LoveStages. The respondents were sourced from MarketTools's ZoomPanel, a nationally representative online panel of 2.5 million consumers.