I spent it with a group of women including: my two sisters, my two sisters-in-law, an aunt (who is more like a big sister) and my sister’s best friend (who has become like a sister to all of us). This is an annual event held every November (going on about 15 years now). It is a weekend jam packed with shopping, talking, eating, laughing and lounging. It charges up our batteries for the up-coming holiday season. I highly recommend it.
All of us are married – in fact, between the seven of us we have been married over a hundred years collectively(!). And yet, we are still trying to figure it out. Six of us have kids, ages ranging from 21 to 3. One of us, well… me, is divorced and remarried. Some are madly in love with their husbands, some are content with theirs, one is not.
There is always a lot to talk about, a lot of advice to give. It is a bit overwhelming to think back over the years and note the diverse crises concerning our men and kids. We have all had our turn. All of us.
The amount of help and support we give each other cannot be overstated. On top of that, when we get together, we laugh. I laugh with these women like I laugh with no other group of people.
On Friday night as we talked over our hors d’oeuvres pot luck, my sister-in-law Peg told a little story about buying her son a nut cup (I’m not sure what the proper name is for this device). He wondered, on the way to the store, what color he should get. She had to disappoint him by explaining that the only color was white.
The ladies and I spent the next hour screaming with laughter, brain-storming a new company called “We’re Nuts”. This company would make stylish nut cups: one with a smiley face, one with a camo design, one with “I’m with stupid” printed on the front, etc... We truly got a kick out of our own cleverness. (Did you have to be there to get the humor?)
Perhaps the most revitalizing part of this week-end get-together isn’t the advice or the shopping, or the love, or the support... maybe it’s the chance just to be silly with my best friends.
If you plan something like this with your sisters or girlfriends, I have some suggestions.
#1: Make it for the whole weekend. For awhile we just did a Saturday overnight. This was just not enough time.
#2: Invite only women with whom you feel comfortable lounging in pajamas.
#3: No agenda. You can shop alone, together, or stay back and read. This is a no pressure/no demand week-end.
#4: Men and children are banned.
That’s it for now. Take care.