New research from Sweden claims that a long commute hikes up your risk of divorce. According to the study, 11 percent of Swedes embark on a daily commute that is 45 minutes or longer. While 45 minutes doesn't seem like a lot (especially for New Yorkers accustomed to driving between Long Island and Manhattan twice a day) long commutes are a fairly new addition to the Swedish lifestyle. Alas, it looks like married couples are having a hard time dealing with the change, which ironically creates marital tension by reinforcing traditional (read: outdated) gender stereotypes.
The world outside shifts quickly when you're at home. It starts to feel too big; there's too much you need to protect your children from in it. But the truth is that the world outside isn't too big; it’s that when you let a part of yourself go—like your career—your world becomes smaller. And without balance, you lose perspective, a sense of proportion.
As a self proclaimed feminist, I was surprised by how hobbled I was by my love for our first born, that I, who’d argued for years how important it was that women remain in the workforce after giving birth, couldn’t imagine being anywhere but home. I'd always prided myself on being independent and self sufficient, secure on my own two feet. Now, without a paycheck, I felt lost, unsure of my worth.
Okay, okay, hold up. We all know that some of you have actually made love in your office, your bosses' office, in the cubicle next door, and maybe even at the security desk. And frankly I know how exciting it can be, fooling around doing something you are not supposed to, making an effort to not get caught. It is all the thrill of the “making love at work” game.
My husband is in sales. He is wonderful at his job and has grown in his career. Unfortunately, moving up the sales ladder generally means that you’re going to be traveling – a lot. Earlier this year, I said “Adios” to corporate America and turned to freelance writing to keep me sane while staying at home with my children full-time. It’s a good thing I did – a few months later, my husband’s schedule shifted and he was suddenly required to be out of town Monday morning through late Wednesday night every. single. week.
Why do you think if something's going wrong, it must be your fault? Why are you so sure if your boss is upset, it's because you've done something to upset him? Your boss is in a bad mood, and the first thing that goes through your mind is "What did I do?" You're sure you've made some terrible mistake. You obsess until you can't stand it anymore and come right out with "Let me know what I've done. Whatever it is, I'll fix it." Your boss looks at you funny and says "What are you talking about?
Because we're big believers in supporting women entrepreneurs and their startup ventures, we'd like to let all of our burgeoning entrepreneur readers know about the upcoming Ladies Who Launch conference. We find that their "Dream it! Launch it! Live it!" motto is one that we're all eager to stand behind.
Each week Lyz on Love aspires to do one thing. Make a video that doesn't suck. If I aspire to do two things, it's a video that doesn't suck on love and relationships topics from around the web. This week, I'm talking inter-office dating. Co-worker canoodling. Dipping your pen in the company ink. Carpooling. Did I forget anything?
Today's job market has many couples well aware of the strain unemployment can put on a relationship. Constant stress can cause fights, break up an otherwise healthy relationship, and really put "for better or worse" to the test. Often, coping with this anxiety and pressure can be just as taxing for the employed spouse as it is for the one who is out of work. But this doesn't have to be the case. Instead of letting unemployment destroy your relationship, allow it to strengthen your bond as a couple. We show you how to cope:
Next week my wife and I enter the modern world—that rush of jobs, school, daycare and preschool, that buzz of fast mornings and exhausted little kid evenings—for the first time as a couple. Let's put it this way: we just bought our first ever family calendar this week, and it's already full.